This blog was founded as a resource for people interested in becoming Foster Parents or are already Foster Parents.  Thru sharing our Foster Care stories, experiences and advice we aim to encourage others that have had/or are still going thru the same or similar situations; or need to obtain insight or understanding therein.  We are not to judge one another, but to encourage each other in such matters.  Let us use our knowledge and advice to help others!

Here are Valuable Guidelines and Rules on posting comments on this blog:

    • Don’t use the real names of the Child/Children in your care.
    • Do not post photos of your Foster Child/Children.
    • No sexually explicit posts will be allowed on this blog, and will be deleted immediately on detection.
    • Refrain from using any foul language.
    • The comments posted on this blog is not necessarily that of the blog founder.

41 Responses to About

  1. Julie Bruyns says:

    Hi I have been fostering my niece and nephew for just over 2 years now. Recently I have started being threatened and verbally abused by the biological father ( my brother) what are my rights? can someone assist me in some free legal advice?
    Thank you

  2. linda says:

    hi i have baby boy who is ten months this month and im twenty one i need help from anyone who is willing for me and my boy to join their family. i need help immediatley its urgent i cant
    give up my baby and i need a home for my boy and i. i love him and i would do just about anything for him!!

    • Please contactor your closest CSC or Welfare Offices, and discuss your situation with them. They will be able to advice and assist you. On 02 May 2016 22:33, “Foster Care in South Africa” wrote:


  3. Noleen says:

    My story is not completed my niece that has gone A WOL is 18 years of age and my nephew is 16 X years old and his failed grade 7 twice his now repeating thus grade for the 3rd time, the children never got counselling for the death of their mother..kindly note their biological dad shot their mum and their 2 X year old cousin and killed them both …I honestly am a grandmother myself old school that is strict so we faced with a transition phase as they came to live with me in January 2016, is their anyone that can advise me..how to handle this situation. Thank you God bless


  4. Noleen says:

    Good evening all…

    I’m writing with a very heavy heart tonight about my story. .my aunts daughter was shot dead by her boyfriend din the year 2000, she was the left with her 2 X kids to grow up. She passed on last year October and I am the eldest aunt so now the kids are in my care, the social, workers took all my details etc, and applied for foster parent status. I live I a Semi Rural area where public Transpot is not so easily accessible. I got the eldest school in the Jhe CBD after y schools refused to accept her long and short of it on Saturday she lied that she i going to sports never returned till today, I hAve been tipped where she is ..I spoke to social worker she advised i gi to report misding person tonite us the 3Rd nite she is nit home foster parents what do I do with a 1it yearold niece that has lived a life of controlling herself….please advise

  5. Nomvelo says:

    Hi am a mother of three. We recently moved to ELdoreigne from Westpark and am wondering is it possible for me to get a boy around 7-9 to come stay with us every holiday and go back when schools open. Thank you.

    • Good day. Unfortunately this is a Foster Care blog. Please contact your closest Children’s Home to apply to become Weekend or holiday parents. On 17 May 2015 03:19, “Foster Care in South Africa” wrote:


  6. Laurian Smith says:

    I would really like to become a foster parent. I would appreciate it if someone can contact me. Thank you so much.

    074 1455089

    • Unfortunately this is a privately run blog, that does not provide any welfare services or screening. ‎ Please contact the closest CSC or Welfare offices to you. There is a detailed nationwide list of CSC offices on the information page of this blog. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Wednesday 4 March 2015 09:05To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28w_ewjcgwtk–q8@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “About”

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  7. maryke muller says:

    Ek wil graag help met pleegsorg weet net nie waar hoe en wat om te doen nie is daar iemand wat my meer inligting kan gee. Ons woon in pretoria centurion

    • Goeie naand. Daar is ‘n ‘Information pamphlet’ €Žop die ‘infromation page’ van hierdie blog. Andersins kontak gerus die CMR Noord: Kindersentrum weeksdae op 0123442492 (tussen 07:00 en 13:00).

  8. Erika says:


    Ons is n stabiele gesin en stel baie belang om n wit dogtertjie verkieslik jonger as 4 jaar oud in pleegsorg te neem of aan te neem. Woonagtig in Port Elizabeth. Kan ons asb verwysing kry waar om te begin.

  9. Su-Anne Brand says:

    Hi my husband and I have been contemplating fostering for some time. We are keen to understand what factors increase success of placements. We are both financially secure, very loving and committed but we are eager to understand the facts before making such a tremendous commitment. Is there good reading material or courses we can take?

  10. Annie Combrink says:

    Goeie dag. Ek is besig met nagraadse studies oor pleegsorg. Is daar enige statistieke ten opsigte van mislukte plasings in Suid Afrika?

    • Goeie more. Volgens ons kennis is daar nie gekombineerde statistiek ivm mislukte pleegsorg plasings beskikbaar nie. M.a.w. Elke organisasie beskik oor sy eie rekords, maar kontak vir Mev Van Heerden by die Departement en doen self navraag by haar – 012 359 3409  Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Sunday 31 August 2014 22:33To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28w_eq6ewso5s6he@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “About”

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  11. Heather says:

    Hi, my husband and I have been financially supporting a child for the last year, the mother is unable to support her (she has 2 other children as well) and we would like her to come and live with us so that she can attend school and be part of a stable family. Her mother has indicated that she is willing and would be for this arrangement. We do not want to adopt the child but would like to formalise the arrangement. Please can you offer us advice on what the best options would be in this situation and what we would need to do. Thank you.

    • Contact your closest CSC or Welfare offices and make an appointment, with the child’s mother, to discuss the situation with a Social Workers. She will advice you on how to legalize the child’s placement with you. In the best interest of both the child and your own family, please do NOT attempt to continue with the current arrangement as is.  Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Monday 18 August 2014 09:09To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28w_eqwwue04v3aj@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “About”

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  12. irene says:

    Hi ,me and my husband we will like to foster an Infant ,we are black south african ,and we will like to foster Black baby,We staying in Johannesburg ,kindly advice the process and how long will it take ?

    Thank you

    • Good morning.

      That’s so wonderful to hear! Where in Johannesburg do you stay? As black South Africans you have many more options available to you. Do you want to foster or adopt?

      Ps: Have you seen the movie (dvd) ‘Little One’ yet?

      Kind Regards, Helouise

  13. Roshnee Chinapa says:

    Hi there, my name is Roshnee Chinapa and I am from Cape Town. I have been doing volunteer work at a childrens home in the Athlone area for 4 years now and have become really fond of 3 siblings. They have the same mum but different dads. The mum is around and sees the kids but unfortunately will not be getting them back in her custody and the kids are aged 5, 3 and 2. With this said the eldest needs to leave the home and be moved yet again due to his age – which means he will be seperated from his siblings… I am able to Foster them but not right now… is there a way to get an extention on this so that we able to get our home in order for the kids to come and live with us?

    • Good morning Roshnee.
      It is something that you will definately have to discuss with the children’s Case Worker, as she is the one that knows all the details pertaining to the case. She will also be able to advice you as to the best course of action for future placement possibilities.
      May you find peace in path that you have to take.

  14. Please everyone, this is NOT a placement site! Foster placements must always be ‘married’ and approved by registered Social workers!

  15. Hiermee saam ‘n ‘link’ na ‘n lys van kinderversorgings instansie in die Kaap. Jy is welkom om daardeur te kyk en die naaste een aan jou te kontak. Voorspoed. http://www.westerncape.gov.za/eng/directories/facilities/239717

  16. Peter Templeton says:

    My wife and I (both teachers), as well as our 9 year old son, would love to give an 8,9 or 10 year old white boy a home for the December holidays, with the prospect of making it permanent. Who do we approach – the red tape of child welfare or a children’s home??

    • What an awesome gift to give! I have spoken to numerous Social Workers and they agree that the best and quickest cause of action will be to contact the Children Home’s in your area. What province and area do you stay in? May your journey be blessed.

  17. Tracy says:


    i am already a forster mother and looking to foster another white child of 3 years old or under, i have e-mailed may childrens home but not luck,most of them only have 6 – 18 years old, can you please advice were i can go or contact,

    • Carmen says:

      Hi Tracy
      Saw your message. I am looking to adopt a white 9 year old boy. I live in Ballito KZN? Any idea who I can contact?

  18. Shehnaaz says:

    Hi. My situation is similar to the Jay Steward.
    I am a single mum, struggling with a rebellious, 16 year old.
    I am at the point of breaking. Shes dropped out of school, literally bullying if she doesnt get her way. I am exhausted by the constant battles.
    We are one step away from losing our rented home, as the stress is directly affecting my health and work.
    I need help, for a while, to recover and get back on track.
    Also since I work long hours, she has no adult supervision.
    Please provide me contact with your offices in Gauteng, Pretoria or Nigel.
    Thank you

  19. Jay Stewart says:

    Hello, I am a single mother trying to raise 3 children and hold down 3 jobs. I urgently need help with my difficult 15 year-old son. He is actually only difficult with me and his younger brother, but needs an environment with a dad and where he can focus on his studies. At the moment our life is so disrupted by him that I cannot do my job properly. He needs a place to live in the weeks where a father-figure helps oversee discipline and can come to me on weekends. I cannot afford boarding school and refuses to go. He doesn’t smoke, drink or use drugs – just a very defiant teen and I am too busy trying to work to put food on the table. I have no support and the father got away in court with the excuse that his wife takes care of him financially. Every hour spent in court trying to get money out of the guy has cost me being able to feed my kids. So, if there is somebody out there who thinks they can help me, I’m asking out of sheer desperation and frustration. And don’t try to suggest ACVV or Boys Town. Their response is ‘ag shame, but you are white.’ (the unspoken assumption that there is help for white kids or that I might have enough money). I don’t have enough and I don’t have a support system.
    If you can help me, write to homelgirl40@gmail.com

    • Please contact your closest CSC offices for advice. A detailed list by area, are on the information page of this web site. Kind regards.
      Sent via my BlackBerry from Vodacom – let your email find you!

    • Dear Single Mom. Please contact your closest Welfare or CSC Offices to allow you to make an informed decision (a detailed list of the latter is available on the bottom of the ‘Information’ page of this blog.

  20. Amanda Power says:

    I am desperately trying to adopt a white baby – and on the national child registry, but am starting to put roots out further away from home as feel I dont have any choice. Time is against us and we are desperate for a baby to love and adore.
    i wondered if you would be able to put me in touch with any adoption agencies say in Namibia or in places just bordering South Africa.
    would be so grateful.
    I would love to help foster but I just dont think I could cope with ‘giving the child back’.

  21. Alice says:

    I would like to help by fostering 12 kids,i dont know wher to go.the social workers in my area have none of them at the moment

  22. Tiffini says:

    Hi – I wonder whether you can shed any light. I am desperately trying to register as a foster parent however am being hit with huge amounts of red tape and social workers who tell me there is ‘no need’. I would be most appreciative if you could contact me if you are able to shed any light on the situation. I am based in Gauteng. Many Thanks, Tiffini

    • Helouise Steenkamp says:

      Dear Tiffini,
      Thank you for your inquiry.
      There most definitely is a desperate need for Foster Parents! In South Africa, as in many other parts of the world, thousands of children are in desperate need of loving care in a stable family environment. These children have been removed from their family due to sexual, physical, or psychological abuse, as well as neglect. They are in urgent need of becoming a part of a family where they can be loved and nurtured. Sadly, there’s a critical shortage of loving, secure homes that will unconditionally commit to making a difference in the lives of these hurting children. As a Foster Parent you can offer these children a brighter future and the opportunity to achieve their full potential in life.

      Herewith the requested details on how to become Foster Parents. For the least amount of ‘red tape’ phone the Christian Social Council in PTA at Tel: (012) 344-1291 (office hours):
      1. The first step will be to establish the feeding area you live in. The CSC at the above number will be able to assist you.
      2. If you fall within one of their areas a qualified Social Worker, will make an appointment to meet you, and to discuss the screening criteria, and all the relevant information pertaining to becoming Foster Parents in detail.
      3. The application documents required to start the official process will also be obtainable from her. It usually will all happen within a week!
      4. If they don’t have offices near you, they will be able to re-direct you to the appropriate council. Here’s where it becomes a bit tricky, as each different social/welfare council has its own set of requirements etc. That’s why we strongly recommend the CSC as we found them the most balanced out of all.

      May your journey lead you to meet the fire that has been stirred within your hearts for these broken and desperate children, longing for love and acceptance.

      Please do not hesitate to contact me should you need any additional information.

      Helouise Steenkamp
      Blog Administrator

  23. Jaco Venter says:

    Gesoek Betroubare kinder oppasser / s oor naweke. My kontak nommer 083 414 5405 of epos jacov@telkomsa.net Jaco Venter

  24. Marisa Louw says:

    Baie dankie vir jul moeite met die blog. Ek dink ons kan almal mekaar ondersteun, raad vra en help met behulp van die blog. Sterkte aan almal.

  25. Marichen Havenga says:

    Hallo, vir die eerste keer op ‘Die Blog’. Dis vir my ‘n wonderlike forum en ons kan die 11de Junie 2011 vir almal daarvan vertel!

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