The Collins English Dictionary defines the word mistake as: “1an error or blunder in action, opinion, or judgment; 2 a misconception or misunderstanding.
Unfortunately I’m too familiar with the sickening feeling of self-disillusionment when you realize that you have just made a huge mistake. Especially when it affects those you initially zealously set out to help, support and try to make a difference to. Maybe I’m unique but this is how I experience the process — my first reaction is to be very ashamed of my failure to make or take the correct action in that particular situation. Then after desperately groping for the right words, I fumble out my heartfelt (but totally insufficient) apology. Realizing that nothing I can ever say or do, can correct my mistake, I am engulfed with an all consuming urge to self protect by withdrawing and refraining from further attempts… Does this process sound familiar to you? Well I hope it does because if it doesn’t, that will make me just plain weird!
Recently, trying to work thru a humongous blunder in judgment I had made, withdrawing and refraining from being involved seemed the best decision to make. Why should I put myself in situations where I can potentially make more mistakes, if I could just simply choose not to get involved? But thru prayer and self-examination I have ones again realized that if we try — we will make mistakes. When we make mistakes we have to man-up to them, sincerely apologize and try to mend the situation as much as we can. To withdraw would mean that I have given in to my own selfish nature — walloping in self-pity— and neutralizing me from ever succeeding again. For not making mistakes also means that I’m not doing anything.
So dear Foster Mom and Dad, we are all human and therefore will make mistakes. Let’s not linger upon the ‘what if’s’ and ‘if only’s’ of our mistakes, allowing them to dictate our actions — for that will surely result in us never accomplishing anything!