How much more us that are Foster Parents?

sad-little-girl-and-mother-in-the-parkFoster Parents should keep this fact in mind!

When a child is offered up for adoption, it is almost as if a part of the child is killed; something is lost in the process.  Our mother is the origin of love: she carries us in her body, she nurtures us, provides us with sustenance through breastfeeding… she is our first experience of love and intimacy, and as children we have permission to enter those intimate spaces.

When a child is denied that experience through being adopted, no matter how much the adoptive parents may love their new child, intimacy has died, making it difficult for adopted children to find their place, not only within themselves, but also in the world and with others.  It is only when adoptive parents are able to FULLY HONOR THE BIOLOGICAL PARENTS for the great gift that has been bestowed on them, that hope for the child survives.

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About Helouise Steenkamp

I'm a 45 plus, Devoted Wife and Mother. Adonai has blessed us with two Amazingly Wonderful Sons. We have had the privilege of being Place of Safety parents for 1 1/2 years and there after foster parents to a Darling Princess for 5 years. She was reconciled with her biological parents in Dec'14. Our hearts are still aching from the loss, but we know that as we trust Adonai with our salvation, so we can trust Him with her future. We welcomed our new 4 year old foster child on 05JUN'15.
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