It’s hard enough being Foster Parents, but what I find even harder is having to watch the biological parents not prioritizing the re-unification with their children as being the most important thing in their lives! — Written by: Anonymous
I get the impression that they don’t realizing how much precious time is ticking past … every day turns into a week, every week turns into a month, months turns into years – Mom / Dad your wasted time has already turned into four years! Wasted time that you will NEVER be able to get back.
During those four years, you have been together and split up just as many times. When I take your children for their monthly visits (play sessions), I hear how you have sorted your lives out, found new jobs (the 7th that we know off) and that you have the children’s rooms all made up and waiting for them at your new home (about 6 homes later) …
What about your children? How long will this process of ‘you’re growing up’ as parents still take? Do you really think that after your children have grown up from babies into pre-schoolers, being raised by other ‘parents’ , that you will be able to just magically flick a wand and erase the last four years from their lives? Do you truly expect them to just forgive and forget that YOU have made wrong decisions that have kept you out of their lives? How do you think they are affected by not knowing what tomorrow brings? Will they stay where they are or will they go back to live with you?
My heart aches to think that eventually these precious children will turn 18; having aged out in the system, with no stable foundation of roots in knowing this is where I will always stay. Mom / Dad are this truly the life you have to offer for your children? A life of uncertainty of never knowing what tomorrow might bring?
PLEASE parents: Either make your children your number one priority; or love them so much that you are willing to give them up! But please decide — before time leaves them without a real future or a secure past!
Written by: Anonymous