At the start of our Foster Journey we were full of ‘own wisdom and belief’ of being able to help any child in need! (Maybe you can relate?)
But as we walked the walk and paid the school fees of this unique journey, we came to a more realistic insight and understanding. Due to the foster child’s unique background; scholastic and developmental phases; and the uniqueness of each member of our foster family, I have learned the hard way that not every child can successfully fit into our family.
Every Family consists of a VERY fragile balance, and as soon as a family start fostering that balance becomes especially sensitive. With every child added, the balance sways. If you’re not properly assessed as a foster family and equipped (if so advised) you might not be able to cope with a new, or even with your current placement. The ultimate goal is to keep you as a foster family healthy. You can’t help any child if your own family starts falling apart.
So my words to the wise are these: BELIEVE the The Social Workers when they advise you against taking another placement, or not taking a specific placement. You might think you are prepared, but take my word — “they KNOW what they are talking about”!
You might feel disappointed and underestimated for a short while, but the heartache you save yourselves and that child in the long run, fades greatly in comparison.
With heartfelt compassion —