NOT the best parent in the world!

We have a beautiful 4 year old in foster care since she was 13 months old, and have two amazing biological sons aged 18 and 14 years of age. However having recently added an 11 year old girl to mix, I’m sure you can only imagine the testosterone and hormones flying around our house!

Please don’t get me wrong my sons and foster daughters are really trying to accommodate each other, but ‘pew’ going through the adaption phase and having to constable arguments, bickering and mood swings cause me as a parent to feel completely inadequate. Self doubt such as “Who am I kidding? I can’t even properly control my own children or be the best parent in the world for them, who am I to think that I can bring up other people’s children?” was soon to kick in.

Then recently I came to the realization that … “I did not become a foster parent because I thought myself to be the best parent in the world; But because I wanted to at least try to be as good a parent as I can be to those that want me to be theirs!”

May you also come to the full realization that even with our shortcomings and mistakes; we are parent enough for them that God has entrusted to us!

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About Helouise Steenkamp

I'm a 45 plus, Devoted Wife and Mother. Adonai has blessed us with two Amazingly Wonderful Sons. We have had the privilege of being Place of Safety parents for 1 1/2 years and there after foster parents to a Darling Princess for 5 years. She was reconciled with her biological parents in Dec'14. Our hearts are still aching from the loss, but we know that as we trust Adonai with our salvation, so we can trust Him with her future. We welcomed our new 4 year old foster child on 05JUN'15.
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4 Responses to NOT the best parent in the world!

  1. Lindie says:

    Helouise, dankie vir die ware woorde, ek kon regtig aanklank vind. Mens voel as jy ‘n pleegouer is, is jy onder ‘n vergroot glas en jy moet perfek wees, maar jy is maar net mens en probeer jou bes. Hou ouer my twee raak (nou 5 en 7), hoe meer kreatief raak ek met dissipline. Nou die dag het my seuntjie my dogtertjie se arm gekrap toe hy sy papier vliegtuig van haar probeer afvat. Dit was per ongeluk en hy het om verskoning gevra, maar die reël is dat as jy iemand seermaak, mag daardie een ‘n straf uitdink (binne perke natuurlik). Sussie besluit toe dat hy die res van die week haar bed moes opmaak. Hy het dit gedoen en sussie het groot genot daaruit geput om hom elke oggend te herhinner. Teen die einde van die week het hy belowe om haar nooit weer seer te maak nie, nie eers per ongeluk nie. So far so good. Ons sal sien hoe lank hou dit … Boetie en sussie is so lief vir mekaar en speel so lekker saam, maar ai, die bakleiery party dae maak mens op! Ek kan myself net voorstel met tieners in die huis :)

  2. Mariette says:

    Goeie dag Helouise, ek wil graag die Pleegsorg Handleiding hê, is dit te koop? Ek het dit probeer aflaai maar het nie ‘n wagwoord nie.
    Groete Mariette

    • Goeie more Mariette. Ongelukkig is Pleegsorg Handleiding die eiendom van die CMR: Noord – Kindersentrum en word net beskikbaar gestel aan huidige CMR geregistreerde Plek van Veiligheid- Pleegouers. Ons bied elke maand ‘n kursus vir nuwe Veiligheid- Pleegouers aan. Groete.

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