Foster Children experience intense and overwhelming feelings of loss, on having been removed from the only family and parents they have ever known. Foster Parents on the other hand, think that the foster child feels relieved after having been ‘saved’ from his bad circumstances. They therefore expect the foster child to not mourn for his past. This however is not the case.
Allowing the foster child enough time to properly mourn, will enable him to work thru his emotions, adapt into his new environment, and to accept the fact that he can no longer live with his biological family. Give him the opportunity to talk about his feelings and be willing to listen when he want to talk about it. Never try to talk it away, ignore it, or make light of their intense feelings of loss. Remember that: Lots of things can wait, but children are not one of them!