The Importance of Allowing your Foster Child to mourn for his Biological Family

ImageFoster Children experience intense and overwhelming feelings of loss, on having been removed from the only family and parents they have ever known.  Foster Parents on the other hand, think that the foster child feels relieved after having been ‘saved’ from his bad circumstances.  They therefore expect the foster child to not mourn for his past.  This however is not the case.

Allowing the foster child enough time to properly mourn, will enable him to work thru his emotions, adapt into his new environment, and to accept the fact that he can no longer live with his biological family.  Give him the opportunity to talk about his feelings and be willing to listen when he want to talk about it.  Never try to talk it away, ignore it, or make light of their intense feelings of loss.  Remember that:  Lots of things can wait, but children are not one of them!


About Helouise Steenkamp

I'm a 45 plus, Devoted Wife and Mother. Adonai has blessed us with two Amazingly Wonderful Sons. We have had the privilege of being Place of Safety parents for 1 1/2 years and there after foster parents to a Darling Princess for 5 years. She was reconciled with her biological parents in Dec'14. Our hearts are still aching from the loss, but we know that as we trust Adonai with our salvation, so we can trust Him with her future. We welcomed our new 4 year old foster child on 05JUN'15.
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