What makes a good Foster Home through the eyes of a Foster Child

ImageSharing her life story as a foster child, Debra Cruz gives a frank account of what makes a good Foster Home  http://www.squidoo.com/lifeasafosterchild

Of all the foster homes I’ve been in, one stands out as a shining example above all the others. They were an older couple in Eclectic, Alabama. I only remember their last names, the Hayes, and their son was the local pastor of the church we lived near. This was the first foster home, and I wish we could have stayed, but tragedy struck the family, and then we were gone. I think Mr. Hayes died, which is why we had to go.

Let’s not focus on that though, but on how great this couple was. First of all, they NEVER hit us. They just talked to us, and tried to teach us. What matters most is they never hit us, or yelled at us.

We had routine. Everything was structured, and we knew what to expect every day. Don’t you see how important that is to us? No surprises, no chaos, no changes. At least while we were with them. I remember regularly eating pancakes for supper and watching Kung Fu on TV. It didn’t matter that I didn’t understand the TV show that well, it was the tradition of it that was comforting.

The one thing I loved there was sitting on the porch swing and singing. I rarely talked, rarely smiled, but I would sing. It was freedom! It was expression! My siblings would join in, and you clapped for us! You smiled at us. You made us feel special, and you didn’t take our song from us.

They NEVER hit us, did I say that already? Yes, it’s that important. We know pain, you can’t hurt us anymore than we had been hurt already. Does it make you feel better when you make us cry? That is what we’ve been taught. The Hayes never hurt us or yelled at us. I think they really understood. They were wise and patient. They were good. I truly honor their memory. They were the only ones…

Please read the rest of her very frank and touching life story @ http://www.squidoo.com/lifeasafosterchild for even more insight!

About Helouise Steenkamp

I'm a 45 plus, Devoted Wife and Mother. Adonai has blessed us with two Amazingly Wonderful Sons. We have had the privilege of being Place of Safety parents for 1 1/2 years and there after foster parents to a Darling Princess for 5 years. She was reconciled with her biological parents in Dec'14. Our hearts are still aching from the loss, but we know that as we trust Adonai with our salvation, so we can trust Him with her future. We welcomed our new 4 year old foster child on 05JUN'15.
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