My wife and I have been doing foster care for 17 years. Along the way, we’ve learned a few things that seem to be givens when working for our children. Written by: ~ Keith Thompson
Love may not be enough, but when you add unlimited patience and a sense of humor, you can usually get through.
Things go best when you go by the book – but you have to be using the right book!
Having a spirit of contention accomplishes nothing – especially when you are trying to work with the “system”.
You can’t help every child, but you can still cry for them.
You can’t help every child, but you can still pray for them.
Some people know how to fix a broken child, and some people know how to fix a broken system – very few people have the time and talent fix both!
You can feel close to God when changing a diaper.
Foster Care is the worst paying job in the world.
Foster Care is the best paying job in the world.
Enjoy the good days when they come – on the bad days, find someone to serve.
Kids who’ve had it rough in life need good, strong parenting.
Kids who’ve had it rough in life need someone to serve them.
Knowing when to be a parent, and when to be a servant brings the greatest joy and success.
Abused kids are used to being yelled at – try using funny voices instead!
Never let a child go to bed without a “tuck-in”.
A 10 year old who’s never been allowed to be a 10 year old, will not become a 10 year old upon arrival in your home – pick your battles and conquer one behavior at a time.
ALWAYS expect that the children will not resemble their “resumes”.
Children are more important than furniture.
Work as if everything depends on you – Pray as if everything depends on the Lord!
The greatest lesson the Lord has ever taught me about fostering children came during a church meeting one Sunday. Our newly arrived, nine year old foster son came in during the meeting and asked me to tie his shoes. My first thought was to scold him for not being able to tie the shoes himself. My next thought was to kneel down and tie them for him. My final thought was – I am kneeling at the feet of the Savior!
And since I have still not learned everything, my most recent lesson comes from someone I only recently met. When we ask ourselves why a child had to be born to such an abusive parent, remember that the birth of a child is the keeping of a promise made in heaven.
I'm a 45 plus, Devoted Wife and Mother. Adonai has blessed us with two Amazingly Wonderful Sons. We have had the privilege of being Place of Safety parents for 1 1/2 years and there after foster parents to a Darling Princess for 5 years. She was reconciled with her biological parents in Dec'14. Our hearts are still aching from the loss, but we know that as we trust Adonai with our salvation, so we can trust Him with her future. We welcomed our new 4 year old foster child on 05JUN'15.