Bringing Out the Best in Your Foster Child

Encouragement is the Seed of Success

We, as foster parents, desperately want our foster children to do their best, even more so because of the trauma and hurt they have already been through.  Foster children may have become completely immobilized or paralyzed by fear of failure and won’t even try. The best way to start the healing process in this situation is to focus on encouragement and on having your child be happy and well balanced rather than on being a “winner” or being “successful” in the traditional sense of the word.

Although praise is a good tool to use intermittently, by far the more important tool is encouragement. If children are praised for everything they do, even failures, they become confused when they get out in the real world and are not similarly compensated for their efforts or lack thereof. Therefore, a careful balance of encouragement coupled with an expectation that the child will put forth the very best effort possible, is what is necessary.


About Helouise Steenkamp

I'm a 45 plus, Devoted Wife and Mother. Adonai has blessed us with two Amazingly Wonderful Sons. We have had the privilege of being Place of Safety parents for 1 1/2 years and there after foster parents to a Darling Princess for 5 years. She was reconciled with her biological parents in Dec'14. Our hearts are still aching from the loss, but we know that as we trust Adonai with our salvation, so we can trust Him with her future. We welcomed our new 4 year old foster child on 05JUN'15.
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One Response to Bringing Out the Best in Your Foster Child

  1. Alice says:

    This is really what we should know as parents even to our children.As i want to foster atleast i know what i should expect from foster children and i know what am i going to do.I thank God for these lessons.I am still going to learn alot.that will make my life and theirs to be easy.Thank you Helouise

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