Rough Days!

We all know that there can be rough days with bio kids, rough days with spouses, rough days at work, but there seems to be some special stab in the back that happens when you have a hard time with your foster child/ren.

As foster parents we have to refuse to be draw into their negativity.  We have to resit our natural reaction to become angry.  It’s a balancing act, a purposeful push to stay connected when you would really rather withdraw.

But in the heat of a major meltdown moment on the foster child’s part, when you literally feel the anger and adrenaline coursing through your body, it is very hard to not react negatively. The best thing to do is to remind yourself “this is not me”, and to immediately remove yourself from the situation. As parents we have to act and not react. We do respond by addressing the meltdown briefly, but now is not the time to linger on it any longer. Get away and regroup if it’s quite severe, and if you feel that you cannot handle it this time phone a support parent just to vent your feelings; or your Social Worker for advice.  Often, it’s just putting one foot in front of the other.

Greater is He that’s within me!. God has called you to be a foster parent; Know that He will get you through this rough time. As much as we think that current events are a surprise to Him, as much as they are to us; He knew, knows and cares. He wants you to be safe and for your kids to thrive.

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About Helouise Steenkamp

I'm a 45 plus, Devoted Wife and Mother. Adonai has blessed us with two Amazingly Wonderful Sons. We have had the privilege of being Place of Safety parents for 1 1/2 years and there after foster parents to a Darling Princess for 5 years. She was reconciled with her biological parents in Dec'14. Our hearts are still aching from the loss, but we know that as we trust Adonai with our salvation, so we can trust Him with her future. We welcomed our new 4 year old foster child on 05JUN'15.
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2 Responses to Rough Days!

  1. Alice says:

    What i am learning here is wonderfull.This is what we need to know as parents even to our own children.That knowledge will really make our lives to be easy.I really appreciate these lessons.Thank you

  2. Alice says:

    What i am learning here is wonderfull.This is what we need to know as parents even to our own children.That knowledge will really make our lives to be easy.I relly appreciate these lessons.Thank you

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