One of the most important parts of being a Foster Parent, is learning to make time to take care of yourself!
To find (or make) the time to relax and realize that many of the feelings you have as Foster Parents are normal under the circumstances. You need to acknowledge these feelings, not deny them and keep them buried where they fester and make you lash out at your child and those around you.
You should always keep in mind that your Foster Child is a ‘hurting’ child, and that he/she will vent their anger and frustration at you. Identify that their actions are not aimed to be hurtful to you, but are a reflection of the terrible things done to them by others. So learn how to effectively parent your child and learn how to deal with your feelings – by talking to others who live the same life or to a professional therapist. You are not alone!.
Keeping these feelings inside only makes the situation worse and you cannot effectively parent your child if you are not taking care of yourself.