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The Urgent need for Foster Parents

In South Africa thousands of children are in desperate need of loCopy Right Protectving care in a stable family environment. These children have been removed from their family due to sexual, physical, or psychological abuse, as well as neglect. They are in urgent need of becoming a part of a family where they can be loved and nurtured. Sadly, there’s a critical shortage of loving, secure homes that will unconditionally commit to making a difference in the lives of these hurting children.  As a Foster Parent you can offer these children a brighter future and the opportunity to achieve their full potential in life. CSC North – Foster Care Information Booklet

Background

Foster care is not the same as legally adopting a child. “Foster care is the placement of a child, who needs to be removed from the parental home, into the custody of a suitable family or person willing to be foster parents. This is done by order of the Children’s Court.” Children can be removed from the custody of their biological parents if they are abused, neglected or abandoned. In South Africa, poverty contributes to abuse, neglect and abandonment, but these issues are not limited to poor communities.

The Benefits of becoming a Foster Parent

As a foster parent, you will experience many challenges and some difficult days – but most parents find that the joy of seeing their foster children push through their own pain and anger far outweighs it. As your foster child moves through their own difficult emotions, he will look to you for love and support, and become more and more a part of your family. Many foster parents are still “home base” to the children they fostered, and welcome them back home for holidays and summer vacations even after they’ve reached adulthood.

Screening

Prospective foster parents are screened by welfare organizations to ensure they are suitable to take on the responsibility of caring for a child. The factors taken into account when screening applicants include:  The age of the prospective foster parents; The health of the prospective foster parents; The family composition and income; etc. Although foster placement is temporary in nature, the screening process is taken seriously and always in the best interests of the child. Prospective foster parents will also be interviewed about their views on raising children and education, their attitude towards the biological parents, and their motivation to foster a child who is not their own. Religious and cultural factors are also taken into consideration, factors which may have considerable implications in a country made up of diverse ethnic groups.

Responsibilities of Foster Parents

South Africa has a current shortage of social workers. Nevertheless, social workers are responsible for the supervision of foster parents, which usually takes the form of annual house visits, unless there are problems related to the placement. The obligations of foster parents include: Giving proper maintenance and care to the child; and Granting reasonable access to the child’s biological parents. In South Africa, foster parents are permitted to discipline a child in their custody. They are not permitted to deal with any property belonging to the child (that the child has brought into the household or received as a gift from the biological parents), consent to the marriage of the child or to a medical procedure that may endanger the child’s life. And a foster child is not allowed to be taken out of South Africa without prior authorization.

Applying to be a Foster Parent

Prospective foster parents should contact the Department of Social Development or Christian Social Council offices in their area (see list below for contact information).  After contacthas been made, a screening process with a social worker and a house visitation will follow.  Foster parents will then be summoned to appear before the Children’s Court, where the social worker will recommend that a child be placed with the suitable foster parents who have already undergone the screening process.

Should you be interested in becoming Foster Parents, please click on this link to access a List with Contact details, of Christian Social Council Offices, in your area.

461 Responses to Information Page

  1. Mpolokeng potsane says:

    Hi the forester parents are doing Great job but I like to know is it possible for my sister who stays with a forester parent to come and visit me because its almost 5years she’s wanted to visit me but her forester mom doesn’t want her to visit me she says she can come whn she’s finished school which wil b in 3years,I miss my sister and she cries to me all the time nd I don’t know what to do,my father used abuse us whn I left home,I hav a rdp house now I din’t hv a place to stay then whn my sister ws taken to forester but now tht woman says why do I want her to visit whn I didn’t want her thn which hurts bcuz I also left home in the same circumstance as my little sisi just tht I wasn’t lucky to find a proper home,now I hav a home and want my sista to visit me for holidays but we can’t spent time together my father ws abusing us I left home,and my little brother left school n went to lesotho where he’s in prison now,What should I do?plz contact the botshabelo social workers on my behalf.help plz
    Kind regards
    Mpolokeng

    • Good day. You should not be discussing the situation with the foster parent . Foster parents are only the ‘middle men’, and can not decide who should or shouldn’t visit with the child in their care. The correct channels to follow will be to make an appointment with and discuss possible visitation with your sister’s social worker.‎  She, in conjunction with her manager, are the persons that can make the decision. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Sunday 7 December 2014 15:52To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9a_1o-o3636t@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  2. Steve Maleka says:

    We are foster parents to an orphaned child. We have been screened and have a valid Court order. We have had the child for 8 years and she is now 15. We have our own children 26 and 22 respectively. The child’s aunt, who was young at the time, is now in a relatively better financial position and is interfering to an extent where she approached the social worker to have the child removed from us. The social worker, without a due process, has demanded that we come to the child welfare offices to sign a transfer order.
    What recourse/remedy is available? The administrative action is unlawful, unreasonable, procedurally unfair and no reasons are provided. Not even a visit from the social worker to present to us what the aunt may have fabricated as reasons she wanted the child. Is this allowed?

    • Unfortunately one of the main aims and obligations by law, of foster parents are to aid and work towards re-unification with the biological family. If the Social Worker approves of the re-unification we have to comply with their recommendations. Should you feel the aunt not capable of providing in the child’s needs, or have reason to believe that it will not be in child’s best interest to be re-unified with her biological family I recommend that if your financially able to, to appoint an attorney as soon as possible to oppose the decision. Alternatively you can contact the The Office of the Family Advocate to discuss the matter with them and hopefully secure a advocate to represent you. My heart aches for you, your family and the child. Our foster child is also being re-unified with her biological family after five years, and we were unable to prevent it.

  3. Elna Meyer says:

    Goeie dag ek soek raad asb!Ek het twee kinders in pleegsorg al vir drie jaar.Dinge werk nie uit nie!Hul het reguit vir my gese hul wil nie meer by my bly.Die welsyn werker sukkel ek al van Maart af om my te help.Hul se voor hul die kinders kan skuif moet al twee ouers in hof verskuin en dit bly net by dit!Se my net watse regte het n pleeg ouer?As jy nie meer die kinders in jou huis soek nie moet jy regtig wag dat al twee ouers in hof verskuin voor hul in kinderhuis of op ander plek geplaas kan word?Ek weet nie meer wat om te doen!Maak my lewe bitter.Gee my raad asb?

  4. Leila Moodley says:

    I need some advice urgently.. A few weeks ago my best friend passed away, leaving behind 3 children… The eldest boy is 19, and out of school already. The girl is 12, and the youngest boy is 8. I am the Godmother of these children, and I need information as to how to apply for guardianship of the 2 younger ones.. They live in Kimerley, and have been removed from their father’s care and placed in the Child Welfare Home in Barkly West. I live in Durban with my husband and we have 3 boys of our own, aged 14, 12 and 4.5… I am at home during the day, and my husband has a very good job. How long does the process take as I don’t want the babies to be alone for Christmas. Their late mother’s family also live here in Durban, so the little ones will be closer to their blood relatives also,, who have have offered me their full support… Please help. I promised to take care of them…

    • Contact the children’s Case Worker as soon as possible. Discuss the situation with her directly, as every case and case history is unique and will therefore require different approaches and waiting periods. Best wishes.

  5. Mosa Moremi says:

    What is the difference between cluster foster care and foster care and what are the requirements for cluster foster care?

    • A group home is a place where a group of children (maximum of 12) live under the constant supervision of various adult staff members.

      Foster care is where a child/ren (maximum of 6 ) live in the private home of approved foster parents.

  6. Nachy says:

    Dear Board

    My husband and i will be honored to become foster parents, this has been a long dream for both of us helping those in need!!* currently we have our own gorgeous princess she is 6 months of age!! We also live on a farm in Brits area ! The only thing im curios about is when does the child get to see their biological parents?? Does it have to be at my house or can we meet somewhere else ?? Also i am 21 years of age an my husband 24 years of age do we meet the age criteria ?? How can i become a foster parent?? Will i be able to choose a child or not?? Please can you give me more information!! Regards

    • The nature of Foster Care is the temporary care of children found to be need by the Children’s Court, until such a time they can be re-united with their biological parents or family. Monthly or even weekly visits are therefore part of the process. The visits take place at the CSC or Welfare offices – never at your home. Their is a detailed nationwide list of CSC offices on the information page of this blog, as well as a brochure on how to become foster parent.

  7. Melita says:

    I am a foster care giver to my adopted brother we moved to cape town in 2009 and stayed with my cousin who is a father to the child, my cousin took care of my adopted brother financially and otherwise. The child has serious behavioural problems and has been expelled from three different schools in three different provinces, cape town, free state and currently in gauteng which he has only been there for third and fourth term 2014, he is a danger to my family.I have been to social workers in Benoni and Daveyton for assistance with regard to his behavioural problems but was told there is nothing they can do to assist because I moved to cape town and they closed the file, this was done without my knowledge and I don’t understand why they didn’t send the file to cape town as they knew where we were and there are social workers this side also who could have taken over the case.I wanted the social workers to arrange for some kind of intervention or refer us to some kind of a school or programme that deals with children like my adopted brother, I wanted them to help me understand what the problem is with the child instead of them throwing him away like they are doing because they say he is no longer a foster child, then what is he?.. He has not been adopted by anyone except my mom who passed away in 2007 which is why I became his foster parent so it means he is a street kid. Please advice on what I must do next because they refuse to help and because of their actions I want to dissolve this whole foster care thing and want them to take him back I cannot live with him in the state that he is in. I don’t understand what’s the purpose of having social workers is if they can’t help in matters like this, shouldn’t the child come first? and it is clear he needs help and it’s help I am not qualified to give …..

    • €ŽHow old is he and in which suburb do you stay?

      • Melita says:

        He is 13 years old and staying in Daveyton with my sister

      • Which organisation deals with his case?

      • Melita says:

        Child welfare in benoni

      • Unfortunately I have no contacts at the Child Welfare. I will however discuss the situation with a private worker and ask for her advice.

      • Melita says:

        He is currently not enrolled in any school for this year because he was expelled from the one he was attending and I am worried I’m running out of time before school opens. If possible can you also get me contacts of “stout” schools otherwise he won’t be going to school this year.

      • I’ve spoken to the private social worker. She says you have to make an urgent appointment with a social worker from the department, closest to you, and discuss the situation with and insistent on receiving support and help from them. According to the children’s act they have to provide you with assistance. They also have to reopen his file. Do not give up until you have received help the help he needs.

      • Melita says:

        Thank you very much for your assistance I will not give up, do you perhaps know of any school’s for troubled children in gauteng and in the western cape.

      • Unfortunately not, and as far as I know foster children have to be referred to Correctional Schools such as Boys Town, by the Children’s Court.

  8. Kamogelo says:

    Hi
    My husband passed away last July and left my mother in law with his 8 year old daughter. The child’s mother died four years ago. My mother in law needs to apply for a guardianship letter for this child, whats the procedure and where does she go for this?

    • Good day. Unfortunately I don’t know how to apply therefore. All I can suggest is that she makes an appointment with a social worker closest to where she stays, and discuss the situation with her.

  9. Marilyn says:

    We want to do the weekend & holiday fostering… We have a few children’s homes in the area, but I wanted to know first how this works….Would we be able to pick a child at the home we go to that we feel will fit in with our household and that is around the same age as our 4 year old or do they assign a child to us? Thank you.

  10. Albert Els says:

    My wife and I are willing to be foster parents.

    • Please read the information leaflet, and contact the closet CSC or Welfare offices to you.

    • carol says:

      I urgently need help, i need family to foster my two daughters. One is 2 years the other 2″ month. Please they are in danger

      • Good morning. Please make an urgent appointment with the closest CSC or Welfare offices to where you stay. A social worker will be the person to provide urgent help to both you and your precious children.There is a detailed list of Nationwide CSC offices on the Information page of this blog. God speed and protection. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South Africa ‎Sent: Thursday 5 March 2015 07:11To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9jm35relis3b@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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      • Alternatively go directly to a Police Station. They will then contact a social worker on your behalf. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Thursday 5 March 2015 07:11To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9jm35relis3b@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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      • zonja says:

        Ek het net seuntjies. Wou bitter graag dogtertjies gehad het. Ek lees vandag jou nood kreun en ek voel vir jou. Sal jou in my gebede hou en ek hoop als werk goed uit sodat jy en jou dogtertjies veilig is.

  11. nkuleh says:

    I have a problem my sister doing grade 8 and my 5year old is in pre-school. I recently finish my matric i’m 19years we have survived 5years of emotional and mental abuse from this place we at the way we hate it its unbareable. I have changed no interest of life ever since my mom died 2010 we been living hell now i have finished school and waitng for second semester or any job that comes along i hate stayng but then i cant leave my sister in this nightmare all my cousins dont even wanna visit the way their treat them what should i do we dont even visit our other family because their feed us lies lord have mercy i stay in durban umlazi

    • Please urgently contact your closest CSC or Welfare offices and discuss all of your options with a social worker, who will be able to assist you. The Durban CSC offices contact details are: 031 7029220 or 031 4662110

  12. Boledi says:

    My husband and have been foster parents to is niece for the past 5 years. the girl was 9 when she started living with us. Now as a teenager she misbehaves and does not want to be reprimanded. She goes to an extent she loses some of her school items like shoes and bags. She also brings home clothes that have not been bought by us. now last week she wrote a note to say she does not want to live with us anymore.
    What do we do? Let go?

    • I’m sorry to hear about your heartache. Unresolved trauma (such as rejection, etc) causes children to misbehave. Unfortunately there isn’t much you can do if she has decided to request a removal from your care. Courts listen to children older than 12, and children older than 16 can not longer be forced to attend school. My advice is to let the social worker in charge of her case know of the situation, and ask her for her advice.

  13. Slindokuhle says:

    My story is bit complicated i need a foster agencie or foster parents

    • Contact the closest CSC or Welfare Offices to where you stay, and make an appointment with a Social worker to discuss your situation with her. €ŽThere is a detailed Nationwide list on the information page of this blog.

  14. thato says:

    Hi I’m raising my friend child whom she just ran away while the child was only 12month even today she have not returned and I have decided to adopt this child what should ido in order to adopt?

  15. leeandra says:

    Am looking for white family to foster my 2 month old daughter. But we are black

  16. Delene Louw says:

    I would like to get in touch with other foster parents who are fostering refugee children. I am a foster mother to a 14 year old refugee girl and would like to become part of a support group. Fostering a refugee child has it very unique challenges, specifically with regards to permits, grants etc. I would like to make contact with foster parents who are in a similar situation. I live in the Northern Suburbs of Cape Town.

  17. sibongile says:

    im a student of social work this is my first year. just want to know which age a child can qualify or get foster care grant and why these children recieve this foster care grant

    • Good day. The foster care grant is not paid to the child but to the foster parents taking care of him/her. Foster parents can claim the grant only if the child is in their official foster care as sanctioned by the Children’s court, and can be claimed for children up and until 18 years of age. The foster grant is buy law, to be applied to provide for the day-to-day care of the foster child in the foster parents care.

      • delene2015 says:

        Good Morning, my foster child was placed in my care by Court Order at the beginning of 2014. I applied for a foster care grant at SASSA but it was rejected due to the fact that my foster child is a refugee child and has an Assylum Seeker Permit. I was never informed that this would be the situation, neither by the Social Worker from the Department of Social Services who did the foster care screening nor by the Children’s Home in whose care the child was for 7 years. I would still have taken my child, even if I knew that I wouldn’t get the grant, but the grant would have made things easier for us. Don’t you think that the Social Workers involved should have informed us accordingly during the screening process so that we could have prepared ourselves. I had to take 2 days off from work to wait in a line at SASSA to apply for the grant, which was really wasted time. Can someone give me more information about Refugee children in foster care and grants?

  18. pretty says:

    Pretty zwane
    Good day im currently raising my twin sisters daughter her mother passed away in 2001 and have been receiving a social grant only for her so I want t find is possible for me apply foster care grant as im the one whose taking care of her and currently im nt working please advise

    • Foster grants are paid per child in foster care. It is paid to the foster parent, to be used to help provide for the child’s needs. It is not a grand that is paid for the care of the foster parent as well. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Thursday 12 March 2015 10:42To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9e7dujs3zl3p@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  19. Tracey says:

    Hi
    My husband and I are foster parents to a beautiful girl, she has been with us since she was 18 months old, she is now 7.. We would like to adopt but our social worker told us that the government no longer does this, so we would have to have it done privately, which can cost up to R 20 000..
    Is there any way you can help us?

    Thank you
    Tracey

    • Barbara says:

      Hi, we are in the same situation……….we have also had to go to a private social worker to do the adoption and at present have paid in excess of R12,000. I find it ridiculous that the government does not do this, surely it would be in their interest to have the children out of the foster system and adopted? It would save the government on Foster Grants………..

    • The Christian Social Council North: Child Centre also offers this service. Please contact Marietjie for further information at ‎0123442492 or 0123441291. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Wednesday 18 March 2015 10:02To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9ecdjxizg9ld@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  20. liz an Johan says:

    Good afternoon we are foster perants for CMR Middelburg MP of 3 kiddies 9 9 an 8 year olds they attend a private school here as we only have one school that has a SPO class an they are full. We will be wanting to move to Natal south coast but there are no afrikaans schools there with special class being foster children would they be allowed to do home school the 2 of 9 yrs old will be staying with us untill the age of 18 the little one could stand a chance of going back to his perants please I’m worried don’t want to do anything to harm these kiddies of ours they been with us for 8yrs now thank you Liz

    • Good day. I will find out and get back to you with a answer at the latest tomorrow afternoon. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Thursday 19 March 2015 16:54To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9e2xrcfot99t@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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      • I apologise for only being able to get back to you today. You are allowed to home school your foster children, as long as the curriculum used is that of a Department of Education approved program. I obtained the aforementioned Information, this mornong, from the CSC North: Child Centre.

  21. Maris says:

    If a child is placed in foster care by the court and the biological mother abandoned the child 2 years ago,what will be the situation if the mother returns and wants the child back?

    • I will discuss the matter with a private social worker and get back to you, with her response. On 24 Mar 2015 15:28, “Foster Care in South Africa” wrote:

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    • The child’s social worker will actually be the best person to discuss the situation with. Only she knows all of the facts and history surrounding the child and his/her biological family. But generally there is not much you as foster parents can do. The mother will be allowed to visit with the child, as this is her biological right. Whether the child will be re-unified with her is probably not the most likely of things, but there’s so many aspects to consider that I can’t give you a definite answer. Should the mother appoint an attorney to try advocate re-unification, you can also appoint one yourselves on the basis of abandonment.

  22. Irene says:

    I am staying in western Cape, helderberg. I want to start a home for kids I think they call it child and youth care centre.The idea is to have houses with foster and safety parents with no more than 6 children in each. I talked to department of social development who said that there is no need for more homes like that around western cape. Is that really true? Also thinking to have house for babies where they can be until they are adopted or found a new home. I thought the need of this was big in South Africa, it is good if it is not. But is it really true is there no need for this X is it true that the Department of social service is closing homes down? And if so what is the biggest need in the area regarding young children. I am asking because I would like to try to do something for them.

  23. Mapule Catherine Kosa says:

    Hi
    Im the 1st born at home im 23 years old then I have two little sisters, age 21 and 15. We were staying with our grandmother’s sister until I moved out to further my studies aftr my bursary was approved. Our mother passed away in 2009 she was a teacher. My so called family went to claim our inheritance then my uncle opened bank accounts for us at standard bank then he took the cards, he said he’ll return the cards once the money is been sended, after several months we started to receive letters from UIF, Department of education, and other insurances, it was 4 letters. All that money we didn’t even saw a cent of it, he was no where to be found. My younger sister she’s a premature, she was schooling at Eureka at Vereeniging because of her condition, she’s a slow leaner now she’s been expelled from school cause we couldn’t afford her studying fees, I had to drop out of college so that I could help my grandmother because they are surviving through her pension and my little sister’s grand which is not enough. Our uncle said once our grandmother pass away he’s gonna kick us out of his mother’s house and im scared because we don’t have anywhere else to go, we lived there since we were young, is there anything I can do to get help?

  24. betty says:

    Hi..ive been looking after my younger brother since he was 1year 6months after my mom past away now he’s 6years so i want to know if its right if i can apply for fostercare for him?

    • Yes you can. However a Social worker has to investigate and appprove the placement of the child with you first. If approved she will give you a court date when you have to appear in the Children’s for the placement to be legalised as foster care. You will have to make an appointment with a social worker at the closest welfare offices to where you stay, to discuss the situation with her. On 31 Mar 2015 14:37, “Foster Care in South Africa” wrote:

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  25. Hera Smith says:

    Hi I am a foster mom/ place of safety. In 5 years we have had 53 kids through our home. The very first child we cared for is now 18 and we would like to have contact with her. We were planning on adopting her but there was a problem and she was adopted by another couple. Her leaving us was very traumatic for both us and her. Now that she is 18 am I allowed to contact her. I do have her current contact details.

    • How long did she live with you before she was adopted? On 8 Apr 2015 15:04, “Foster Care in South Africa” wrote:

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      • Hera Smith says:

        18 months…..

      • How old was she when she was placed in your care? Was she old enough when she left to have the cognitive ability to remember you? On 8 Apr 2015 15:23, “Foster Care in South Africa” wrote:

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      • Hera Smith says:

        She was 9 and very bright and we were very close.

      • I have huge empathy with you, but it is very difficult to give proper advise on the limited information you have given me. Have you contacted the foster agency you fostered through and if so what advice did they give you on the matter? If you haven’t please contact them first and ask them for advice. As each child’s situation is so diverse they have insight and information you might not have, or have taken into account. The main concern will always be the reason behind her placement with you not having progressed into adoption. How will this have impacted her and made her feel about herself? She was old enough to have been able to memorize your address and contact details, and if you haven’t moved since then, the question would stand why she doesn’t contact you herself. If you have however moved, it stands to reason that she wouldn’t have had the means to contact you… I gather from your short message that you haven’t had any contact with her since she was adopted and that would have resulted in the bond between you having been lost. She moved on with her life while you have been holding on the ‘dream’ of who she was at age 10, and wondering about all the ‘what if’s and maybe’s’. Have you had any contact with her adopted family? Is she is still living with them, and if so what are their feelings towards you? Take time to truly reflect and ask yourself the reason behind your need to contact her. Is it to try and find closure for yourself and try to still the yearning, longing and sens of loss in yourself? Are you pinning your hopes that meeting with her after 8 years will resolve all the years of not being able to find closure for yourself? Taking my ‘extremely limited’ knowledge of the situation into account – if the foster agency doesn’t have any objections, and if you are truly convinced that she will experience hearing from you positively and are unable to reach you herself – my very cautious advice will be to initiate contact with her via a written letter, asking her if she would be interested in meeting with you. Give her ample time to respond, and please accept and respect whatever her reply may be.

  26. Vivien Jonck says:

    Good Day, We are fostering a baby girl of 1 year old and we are going on a holiday in June in Thailand. We have received a letter from Social Development that gave us permission to get her a passport and that also state that we have permission to take her out of the country for that period. The problem that we forsee is, with the issue at Homeaffairs that struggle to understand the letter from Social development and the hours that we needed to explain to them that we have permission to get a passport. We had all our letters, court order and even a lady from social development on the phone to explained to them our rights.

    Now after that experience, we are concern to travel with her. Do we need some other letters to help us get her out of the country? Is there other foster parents that had issues with traveling?

    Vivien Jonck

    • Good day. Being in possession of a valid Passport for her, should smooth out most potential issues that should arise.

      Unfortunately I do not have knowledge of any other documentation that would be able assist/support you.

      Until such time as the majority of glitches with the newly implemented system has been resolved, I have been advising foster parents to rather not take international vacations or arrange for alternative care for their foster child during their international vacation.

  27. Sylvia says:

    Good morning, I have many foster children all placed in my care by the courts. Some of these children have not managed in mainstream schooling because of learning difficulties or behavioural issues. As a result I am paying huge fees at private schools for children who actually need more skills ed than anything else. My question is.. can I homeschool the fosters that need extra help? What are the legal aspects of homeschooling foster children?

    • You have such a huge and selfless heart. Thank you for all of your commitment and sacrifice to labour towards a better future for harmed children. Foster parents may most definitely home school foster children. The main criteria is that the material used must be registered with the department of eduction. May you daily find favour, grace and strength to continue on this unselfish calling. On 18 May 2015 09:29, “Foster Care in South Africa” wrote:

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  28. theresa says:

    My husband has been looking for her daughter who was aburden by the mother six years ago. He later found out that the child was picked up the family that is currently fostering her. We went to that family and they demanded that we must pay them for all the expenses of raising the child
    My husband later went to that social worker who is handling the case
    An agreement was reached that my husband will get visitation rights and in December the child will stay with us for a year and the situation will be monitored. Eventually after evaluations the custody I’d the child will be given to my husband.
    The foster parents also demanded R25000.
    Now the foster mother is telling my husband that she will never give my husband the child. This is frustrating to him cause he has been looking for hua child for so long.
    What are my husband rights in this issue cause we a now thinking of taking legal action.
    Please respond urgently.

    • Your husband should contact the closest Family advocate, and discuss the matter with them. Their function is to assist families in such mattets. Herewith a nationwide list for Sout Africa:

      Chief Family Advocate: Adv Petunia Seabi
      Ms Z Mpongwana (Secretary to the Chief Family Advocate)
      Tel: 012-357 8022, Fax:012-357 8043
      E-mail:NationalOffice-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X81 PRETORIA 0001
      Physical Address: 329 Pretoruis Street, Momentum Building, West Tower, Pretoria

      Bloemfontein – FS
      Adv. L.M. Sangqu (Principal Family Advocate)
      Tel: 051-447 1115, Fax:051-430 5052
      E-mail:Bloemfontein-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: P. O. Box 12457, Brandhof, 9324
      Physical Address: 163 A Nelson Mandela Drive, 2nd Floor Sanlam Building, Bloemfontein

      Cape Town – WC
      Adv. S. Ebrahim (Principal Family Advocate)
      Tel: 021-426 1216, Fax:021-426 1215
      E-mail:CapeTown-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 9003 , Cape Town , 8000
      Physical Address: 55 Union Castle Building, 10th Floor, c/o House Street & St George’s Mall, Cape Town

      Durban – KZN
      Advocate N.N. Khumalo (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 031-310 6500, Fax:031-305 4130
      E-mail:Durban-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag x 54353, Durban, 4000
      Physical Address: 143 Grove Street, 15th Floor Maritime House, Durban, 4001

      Durban (Provincial Office) – KZN
      Adv M. C. O’Gorman( Principal Family Advocate)
      Tel: 031-310 6500, Fax:0865 076 411
      E-mail:Mogorman@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private bag X54353, Durban, 4000
      Physical Address: 143 Margaret Mncadi Ave, 15th Floor Maritime House, Durban

      East London (Buffalo CIty) – EC
      Adv K Gounden (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 043- 722 8866/7, Fax:043- 722 8868
      E-mail:EastLondon-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: n/a
      Physical Address: 29 St Peters Road , Southernwood, East London, 5200

      George – WC
      Adv W Calitz (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 044-802 4200, Fax:044-802 4202
      E-mail:George-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X6586, George, 6530
      Physical Address: Cnr Cathedral & Cradock Street, Batleur Park Building, George, 6530

      Johannesburg – GP
      Adv. N. Thokoane (Principal Family Advocate)
      Tel: 011-333 3724, Fax:011-337 8189
      E-mail:Johannesburg-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 14, Johannesburg, 2000
      Physical Address: 94 Pritchard Street, 13th Floor, Schreiner Chambers, Johannesburg, 2000

      Kimberley -NC
      Adv. M.M. Mafojane (Principal Family Advocate)
      Tel: 053-833 1019 / 63, Fax:053-833 1062 / 69
      E-mail:Kimberly-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 6071 , Kimberley , 8300
      Physical Address: Umzimkhulu House, c/o Russel and Elliot Street, Kimberley , 8301

      Mafikeng (Mmabatho) – NW
      Adv. B.Makganyoha (Principle Family Advocate)
      Tel: 018- 388 9500, Fax:018- 394 0915
      E-mail:Mafikeng-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag x2232 Mafikeng South 2791
      Physical Address: 461/805 Steve Biko Drive, Unit 2, Mmabatho, 2745 (Black and White building not far from Department of Social Development)

      Mthatha – EC
      Adv X Mji (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 047-532 6054/ 3998, Fax:047-532 5337
      E-mail:Mthatha-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X5255 Mthatha 5099
      Physical Address: 6th Floor, Manpower Building, Corner of Elliot and Madeira Street, Mthatha, 5100

      Nelspruit – MP
      Adv. M.E. Khesa (Acting Principal Family Advocate for Mpumalanga)
      Tel: 013 – 752 2755/ 2762/ 2920, Fax:013 – 752 3657 / 4896 or 086 507 2113
      E-mail:Nelspruit-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 11217, Nelspruit, 1200
      Physical Address: No 3 Marloth Street, Nelspruit, 1200

      Newcastle – KZN
      Adv M. Mbambo (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 034-326 4932, Fax:034-326 4923
      E-mail:Newcastle-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 6610, Newcastle, 2940
      Physical Address: 43 Harding Street , Newcastle, 2940

      Pietermaritzburg – KZN
      Advocate R. Govender (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 033-342 0616, Fax:033-342 0587
      E-mail:Pietermaritzburg-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 9134, Pietermaritzburg, 3200
      Physical Address: 239 Church Street , Pietermaritzburg, 3200

      Polokwane – LP
      Adv. M.E. Khesa (Principal Family Advocate)
      Tel: 015 291 1730 / 015 817 1200, Fax:015 291 1599/2762
      E-mail:Polokwane-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 9320, Polokwane, 0700
      Physical Address: Wyndom Park Building, 23 Rabie Street, Polokwane, 0700

      Port Elizabeth – EC
      Adv L. Roux (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 041-585 5718, Fax:041-585 4459
      E-mail:PortElizabeth-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 6080 , Port Elizabeth, 6000
      Physical Address: No. 1 Bird Street, Central, Port Elizabeth, 3200

      Port Elizabeth (Provincial Office) – EC
      Adv R Claassen (Principal Family Advocate)
      Tel: 041 585 5718, Fax:0866 830 428
      E-mail:rclaassen@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 6080 , Port Elizabeth, 6000
      Physical Address: No 1 Bird Street, Central, Port Elizabeth

      Pretoria – GP
      Adv C. Maree (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 012 323 0760, Fax:012 323 9566
      E-mail:Pretoria-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X 8, Pretoria, 0001
      Physical Address: 4th Floor, Die Meent Building, c/o Andries & Pretorius Streets

      Worcester – WC
      Adv N Sibeko (Senior Family Advocate)
      Tel: 023 347 1238, Fax:023 347 1524
      E-mail:Worcester-FA@justice.gov.za
      Postal Address: Private Bag X3111, Worcester, 6849
      Physical Address: 67 High Street, Worcester, 6850

  29. desperate says:

    I need foster home

  30. Melanie Willemse says:

    I have totally lost my heart to a 2 year old who was neglected and abandoned and placed in foster care by court order. I am not a foster mother but would like to know if it will be possible for her to be removed from her current foster care and placed with me if i become a foster mother. I do not want to foster other kids i only want her. I would love to eventually adopt her but would like to foster her until she is 18 or forever. Just not sure if the court will remove her and then place her with me.

    Melanie Willemse

  31. Tsakane says:

    If orphan fall pregnant the got miscariage before birth during gestination and she is a student she is able to get foster care grant?

    • No. Firstly be ecause she miscarriage, and doesn’t have a baby; and secondly foster grants are only allocated to court approved foster parents for foster children in their legal foster care. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Saturday, 11 July 2015 15:22To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9r93ntu99ot-@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  32. Nicci Scott says:

    Hi Helouise,

    I was wondering if a child was abandoned, is there a chance of adoption after a period of fostering?
    If a family cannot take care of a child for whatever reason, would adoption ever be discussed with them so that the foster parents can create a long term stable environment?

    • As with all Social Care matters your question can not be answered with a simple yes or no.‎ I will try and keep my answer as short as possible, and keep in mind it is based upon the current South African Law and Social Care system. It differs in many areas to that of other Countries.After an abandoned child has been in Court appointed Foster Care for a period of two years (excl. the initial Place of safety period)‎, the foster parents may apply to adopt such a child. I have to stress that  ‘abandonment’ means that the biological parents made no effort to have any contact with their child, and that even if it was the case, the Court could still not grant adoption due to each families unique background and circumstances. The main aim of the Children’s Court remains to exhaust all possibles alleys to keep the original family unit in tack. Even in cases where the child has not been abandoned, adoption may be up for discussion after a period of two years of Court appointed Foster Care (excl. the initial  place of safety period), BUT there are NO guarantees as each case is extremely diverse in nature. If the biological parents does not agree with giving their child up for adotion, the onus lies with the system to prove to the Court (within the written Law) that the biological parent’s legal rights must be taken away from them.  As it is a long and difficult process the Case Worker (Social Worker appointed to the Child’s case) will be able to guide you in this process, as to if adoption may be possible.The bottom line is that it may seem that a child can be available for adoption after two years in Court appointed Foster Care, only to be confronted with the biological parents suddenly showing interest and making contact with their child. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South Africa‎Sent: Tuesday, 14 July 2015 22:41To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9rsw4wtk-_ms@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  33. marecia says:

    Hi I’m in need of advise urgent please. I’m a foster parent to a beautiful little girl. I became her foster parent because there was no where for her to be placed I was only 24 at the time and a newly wed. I got her when she was 3 months old. She is now 6 years old and the light of my life. She was abused and neglected. When I got her I immediately took her to be checked out by our local doctors. Her mother suffers from epilepsy and was not fit to look after her. Her father is late. Now her biological mother wants her back. I know I never gave birth to her but she is my child. Have never stopped her biological mother from seeing her n we do have visits to the welfare. I have a court order which placed the child in my care till she turns 18. I want to know what’s rights do i have as a foster parent. To take her away from the only family she knows. A 6 year old does not understand all this that is goin on. As a parent how do you just give up on a child which has being with you since she was 3months old. Even if I try to explain to her how can she understand. What do i do? I can’t just hand her over she is my child. She is my only child. We don’t have any children of our own. What do I do? Pleas help

    • Thulisile says:

      Hy mareshia,that child is now totaly yours ever since 3year until 6years why now the biological is so care never .the child is yourz.:o

      • Thulisile says:

        If the is any abondoned infant or a baby im not able to have babies pls help me ow i lv raising infants

  34. Frank says:

    Can anyone please give me information. Is it possible to voster white children in South Africa. What are the procedures. Is it possible to go visit these places?

    • Yes it is. There are no places to visit, but organisations to apply with. Please contact your closest CSC or Welfare offices to apply. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Thursday, 23 July 2015 17:43To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9r-6cbz6yf3e@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  35. Thulisile says:

    Hy,and how are you my willing is to adopt an infant me and my husband wishes bcs we never hv 1 b4 its bean 6years now can you help pls

  36. melanie koen says:

    Hi
    My boyfriend is 29 was given up for adooption spent his life in children homes how do we find out why he was either removed or given up by parents he needs to know so that he can put it behind him and live his life. Who can help
    Melanie

  37. Good afternoon. Unfortunately this is blog on foster care and I have no contact with adoption agencies. My best advice would be for him to contact the last Children’s home he lived in and try to get the information from them, or ask them for advice on how to obtain the information.
    I wish you both all of the best on your roads ahead.

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