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The Urgent need for Foster Parents

In South Africa thousands of children are in desperate need of loCopy Right Protectving care in a stable family environment. These children have been removed from their family due to sexual, physical, or psychological abuse, as well as neglect. They are in urgent need of becoming a part of a family where they can be loved and nurtured. Sadly, there’s a critical shortage of loving, secure homes that will unconditionally commit to making a difference in the lives of these hurting children.  As a Foster Parent you can offer these children a brighter future and the opportunity to achieve their full potential in life. CSC North – Foster Care Information Booklet

Background

Foster care is not the same as legally adopting a child. “Foster care is the placement of a child, who needs to be removed from the parental home, into the custody of a suitable family or person willing to be foster parents. This is done by order of the Children’s Court.” Children can be removed from the custody of their biological parents if they are abused, neglected or abandoned. In South Africa, poverty contributes to abuse, neglect and abandonment, but these issues are not limited to poor communities.

The Benefits of becoming a Foster Parent

As a foster parent, you will experience many challenges and some difficult days – but most parents find that the joy of seeing their foster children push through their own pain and anger far outweighs it. As your foster child moves through their own difficult emotions, he will look to you for love and support, and become more and more a part of your family. Many foster parents are still “home base” to the children they fostered, and welcome them back home for holidays and summer vacations even after they’ve reached adulthood.

Screening

Prospective foster parents are screened by welfare organizations to ensure they are suitable to take on the responsibility of caring for a child. The factors taken into account when screening applicants include:  The age of the prospective foster parents; The health of the prospective foster parents; The family composition and income; etc. Although foster placement is temporary in nature, the screening process is taken seriously and always in the best interests of the child. Prospective foster parents will also be interviewed about their views on raising children and education, their attitude towards the biological parents, and their motivation to foster a child who is not their own. Religious and cultural factors are also taken into consideration, factors which may have considerable implications in a country made up of diverse ethnic groups.

Responsibilities of Foster Parents

South Africa has a current shortage of social workers. Nevertheless, social workers are responsible for the supervision of foster parents, which usually takes the form of annual house visits, unless there are problems related to the placement. The obligations of foster parents include: Giving proper maintenance and care to the child; and Granting reasonable access to the child’s biological parents. In South Africa, foster parents are permitted to discipline a child in their custody. They are not permitted to deal with any property belonging to the child (that the child has brought into the household or received as a gift from the biological parents), consent to the marriage of the child or to a medical procedure that may endanger the child’s life. And a foster child is not allowed to be taken out of South Africa without prior authorization.

Applying to be a Foster Parent

Prospective foster parents should contact the Department of Social Development or Christian Social Council offices in their area (see list below for contact information).  After contacthas been made, a screening process with a social worker and a house visitation will follow.  Foster parents will then be summoned to appear before the Children’s Court, where the social worker will recommend that a child be placed with the suitable foster parents who have already undergone the screening process.

Should you be interested in becoming Foster Parents, please click on this link to access a List with Contact details, of Christian Social Council Offices, in your area.

339 Responses to Information Page

  1. Henriette says:

    Hallo, ons het 2 sussies van 7 en 5 in ons pleegsorg vir 3 jaar en 5 maaande. In die begin het hul elke tweede week met hul ouers vir ‘n uur gekuier, maar die ouers is nou vir amper 2 jaar skoonveld. In die tydperk het hul geen kontak met kinders gemaak nie en dit gaan baie goed met die 2 dogtertjies. Het ons enige regte as pleegouers indien die ouers so verdwyn? Ons wil hul graag aanneem in Okt wanneer ons 4 jaar van pleegsorg om is.

    • Goeie naand. Ek vra omverskoning dat ek nou eers antwoord, maar my “data cap” was opgebruik.

      Julle kan beslis aansoek doen om hulle aan te neem. Wanneer die ouers vir sulke lang tydperke verdwyn kan die kinderhof hulle ouerlike regte ontneem en die kinders beskikbaar stel vir aanneming.

      Dit word so omskryf in die kinderwet. Kontak asseblief julle Waarnemende Maatskaplike Werker en bespreek julle voornemens met haar, en sit die bal aan die rol. Dit is ongelukkig ‘n lang proses, maar beslis die moeite werd vir die kosbare kinders en julle. Hulle het stabiliteit en sekerheid in hul plasing met julle nodig. Baie sterkte!

  2. Isobel Bresler says:

    I have done a lot of reading regarding foster care in South Africa, as we are foster parents. This is one of the most relevant sites I have come across. Your knowledge is up to date and your advise spot on.
    Thank you.

  3. Desire says:

    I just want to find out if I as a single women can apply to be a foster parent

  4. robin sinclair says:

    I have been jobless for 3 months and at 64 unlikely to find work Thge debts are now mountains eviction is looming and seperation on the horizon I love my kids to death don’t drug drink smoke but not being able to provode for me let alone my dependants has plunged me into despair already isolated. This is the final straw But will foster care with friends be ok I can’t bear to lose them but I have already My eldest has left home and views me as a loser My 16 year old som barely talks to me as I have nothinhg to offer and my 14 year daughter is feeling the isolationand limited life that poverty brings. My ”wife“ has0written me off and. After many months of sleeping depression found a job but wants out I realise I have no options open anymore nut the thought of never seeing them and them abadoning me is killing me Will they be ok One hears such horror stories of abuse neglect trafficing and no other family is immune from problems What’s the best friends strangers adoptiom I am finished desperate and alone

    • I’m so sorry to read about your difficulties. It must be a terrible situation to be in.
      Before making any decision, please make a urgent appointment with a Social Worker close to where you live, and go and discuss all the options that might be available to you and your children. There is a list of Nationwide CSC Offices at the bottom of the ‘Information’ page of this blog.
      May you find the answers and peace that you need during this very trying period.

    • LORRAINE DEBRUYN says:

      HI THERE MY NAME IS LORRAINE DEBRUYN I AM INTERESTED IN FOSTERING YOU RKIDS PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHAT CAN I DO

  5. Rudi Olivier says:

    Goeie Dag.

    Ek en my vrou is ook pleeg ouers en wil baie graag meer kinders help.
    Ons is buide werkend en is nie heeldag by die huis nie.
    Ons is genader om ‘n pas gebore baba te foster maar nou is my vraag, Kan my vrou insit vir maternity leave?

    • Goeie middag.
      Omdat pleegsorg die ‘tydelike’ versorging van behoeftige kinders is word die plasing van ‘n baba nie herken as kraamverlof, soos in sommige gevalle by die aanneem van babas, nie.
      Daar is wel sommige werkgewers wat ‘n verkorte ‘kraamverlof’ aan hul werknemers toestaan, maar hulle is nie wetlik verplig om dit te doen nie.
      Die beste sal wees dat sy self met haar personeelafdeling of werkgewer gaan gesels en dit met hulle uitklaar.
      Baie sterkte.

  6. Michell says:

    Hi! Weet jy dalk van plekke waar mens kinders kan inneem op ‘n naweek basis of vakansie tye? Kan jy die ouderdom / ras kies in so geval?

  7. hi ek en my man wil baie graag n babatjie aanneem. ek kanie meer swanger word nie is maar nou 29 ons het twee seuntjies een 5 endie andereen 7. ons bly naby bloemfontein. my man werk by multivid en ek werk nie 0783994955.

    • Goeie middag.

      Hierdie is ongelukkig ‘n pleegsorg webtuiste. Kontak asb die naaste CSC kantore aan julle, en doen direk navraag by hulle (daar’s ‘n lys op die ‘Information Page’ van hierdie webwerf).

  8. Irene says:

    I have a child with bad anger issues, she is 4 she has been with us for 1,5 years Adopted, before that she and her twin brother was moved around atleast 10 times from one place to another and sometimes back again to where they where…..this has been going on since they where babies.
    I am looking for somebody that would help her, with therapy, psykology? we think she need help and the sooner it is dealt with the better.
    But it is so expensive with therapy if we could we would send all 4 adopted children to one, maybe somebody knows of some one that can do it for free or cheeper????
    We are staying in Somerset West.

    • Good evening. The Lord bless you for opening your house and hearts to these children. The best course of action will be to contact the children’s Observing Social Worker and discuss the situation with her as soon as possible. She will be able to refer you to professionals that are willing to see foster children at reduced rates, or if your fostering through the CSC they have therapist that can provide therapy. Please do not put it off as the situation will only escalate with time and affect the others, as well as your ability to foster effectively. May you be blessed in this unselfish road that you have chosen to minister in.

  9. Thea says:

    Good afternoon, We have a foster daughter that is so unhappy and want to go back to her family at this stage my husband is thinking of moving out of our house and my little adopted son is miserable. She is a good girl but have been rejected so many times due to her attitude and the way she manipulate people has caused her a lot of heartache.
    We came to the decision that fostering a fourteen year old who blamed everyone for her situation and not taking responsibility for her actions. are not for us.
    Unfortunately her family in Cape town has got a court notice that she is not allowed to contact them as she blamed the father and brother for molesting her. ( Which we were not informed about at the time of fostering her – That freaks my husband out and we lost all trust in her after she lied to us about her friends etc)
    Social services is trying to get a place in a orphanage ( which was the reason who went from JHB to Cape town to help this child.
    She needs a lot of attention and the family that would work for her is if there is no other kids and a lots of noise in the home.
    Who can we contact to get his little girl out of our house a.s.a.p. Please note we did not accept any financial assistants from the government, and do absolutely everything for her.

    • Good afternoon. I have a lot of sympathy for and have gone thru a very similar situation. Unfortunately you will have to wait for the Case Worker to find alternative placement for her. You are not allowed to go outside of her authority. I know it is a terrible situation to find yourself and your family in (having to wait and not being able to tell her anything), but you will just have to bear with it.

      Try to focus on finding strength to not break her down any further with words or actions, during this testing time. She has been formed and hurt by other adults who was suppose to have protected her. Her actions are unconscious due to prolonged exposure to stress hormones. Be strong.

    • ilse says:

      Hi, Thea
      I think alot about you and your situation with your foster daughter, we were in the same situation. Hope everything has been sorted out,
      regards
      ilse

  10. good morning,

    my husband and I are fostering my grandson. he has been with us for almost a year and a half.
    the thing is this: his mother wants us to adopt him (which we will do without hesitation).
    he calls me “mimi”, but lately has been calling me “mama”. should I let him call me mama (seeing that I am the mother figure), as he has no contact with his mother, or should I remind him that I am “mimi”? he knows he has a mother and refers to her as “my other mommy”, he is only 3, andI don’t want to confuse him. any advise?

    • Good afternoon.

      I wouldn’t correct him in calling you mommy, but it is extremely important that from a very young age, he is made aware of the fact that you are his grandparents.

      Please ask a trained child therapist to advise you on the best way to implement his ‘heritage’ into his upbringing. It will spare you and your husband lots of heartache in the future.

  11. Chantelle says:

    Goeie naand Helena,

    Ek weet nie regtig of jy sal kan help nie. Ek soek bietjie advies/leiding asb. ‘n Dogtertjie in my seuntjie se kleuterskool is deur haar ouma in ‘n kubderhuis gesit omdat die ouma nie na haar kan/wil omsien nie. Haar mamma is in die moeilikheid agv dwelms en diefstal. Ek kan net nie help om te dink dat ek na haar moet omsien tot haar mamma weer reg is nie. Ek verstaan sy sal haar nooit afteken om aangeneem te word nie en op hierdie stadium is ek ok daarmee. Ek dink die eerste prys sal wees vir manma om stabiel en gesond te word en vir die dogtertjie (sy is 2) om weer by haar te bly. Intussen kan ek net nie rustig raak oor die feit dat die ou mensie nou in ‘n huis moet gaan bly nie. Ek het self ‘n 2 jarige seuntjie plus ‘n 5m oue baba. Ek weet die aanpassing sal vir almal ‘n enorme een wees, maar terselfdetyd voel dit asof die voordeel vir die dogtertjie baie meer sal wees as die aanpassing vir ons almal. Ek sal nie eers weet waar om te begin om haar hier te kry nie en of dit wel goedgekeur sal word nie, maar ek wou net eers graag met iemand praat wat meer daaroor weet. Dankie.

    • Goeie more.

      Jammer ek antwoord nou eers, was besig met opleiding.

      My hart gaan ook uit na die ou klein mensie, en ek dink dis wonderlik dat jy haar en haar ma so graag wil help en ondersteun.

      Die werklikheid is ongelukkig dat so ‘n plasing, op hierdie stadium, jou eie kinders baie sleg gaan benadeel. Wanneer daar na ‘n moontlike pleegsorgplasing by ‘n gesin gekyk word, is een van die oorwegings of die pleegkind in die natuurlike ouderdoms progressie inpas. M.a.w. die pleegkind word gewoonlik as die jongste kind tot ‘n gesin bygevoeg, sodat die ander kinders op ‘n natuurlike wyse in hulle plasing binne die gesin aanskuif. Pleegkinders is geweldig veeleisend en absorbeer al ‘n mens se aandag, geduld, tyd en versorging. Jou eie kinders is albei regtig nog baie klein en het nou al jou onverdeelde liefde en aandag nodig, en besit nie oor die vermoë om die dogtertjie se omstandighede of nood te verstaan nie. Jy wil tog nie na ‘n maand of twee besef dat jou eie kinders afgeskeep, verwerp en emosioneel ‘seer’ voel nie?

      Terselfdertyd gaan julle huweliksverhouding onder geweldige stres geplaas gaan word, en julle kinders gaan hul ouers nog meer nodig hê. Wanneer ‘n mens in die situasie is en die realiteit van slaaploosheid en fisiese en geeslike uitgeputheid ervaar, word die situasie gou onuithoubaar. Hoe hartseer en hartverskeurend dit ook al mag klink, is julle as jong gesin (kinders se ouderdomme) nie op die regte plek om so ‘n plasing te oorweeg nie.

      My advies sal wees om tussen julle vriende en familie rond te vra of ‘n ander gesin wie se kinders al ouer is, of wat nie kinders het nie sou belangstel om dalk by haar betrokke te raak.

      Die eerste stap daarna sal wees om die ‘plek-van-veiligheid’ waar sy nou geplaas is te kontak, en die toesighoudende maatskaplike werker se kontakbesonderhede te kry en met haar die moontlikheid van ‘n pleegsorgplasing te bespreek. Indien daar na ‘n pleegsorgplasing vir haar gekyk kan word, sal sy die volgende stappe aan die voornemende pleegouers verduidelik.

      Ek sien jou mooi hart en begeerte om te help raak! Daar sal wel eendag die regte tyd aanbreek om ‘n groot verskil in ‘n gebroke kindjie se lewe te maak, maar dis nie nou die regte tyd vir jou gesin nie.

      Baie sterkte!

      • Chantelle says:

        Baie dankie vir die terugvoer Helouisa. Sy is intussen in pleegsorg geplaas by ‘n gesin wat ‘n paar ander pleegkinders ook het. Die juffrou by die skool dink dis die regte dung vir nou. Die Ds. in ons area sê ook dis goed vir haar.

        Haar ma is in die tronk vir 3m of ‘n klein boete. Die ouma het gesê ek moet dit nie betaal nie, want haar dogter het nêrens heen om te gaan wanneer sy uitkom nie. Dis blykbaar ‘die beste vir haar’ om in die tronk te bly. Ek twyfel of 3m genoeg is in te rehabiliteer en aangesien niemand can haar familie haar meer wil help nie weet ek nie hoe sy ooit haarself agtermekaar gaan kry om haar dogtertjie terug te kry nie. Dus vreeslik erg, die juffrou sê die mamma is ongelooflik lief vir haar kind en sy was altyd baie goed versorg. Hopelik kry sy genoeg van ‘n skok om gesond te word en haar kindjie terug te kry.

        Weereens dankie vir die terugvoer en vir al jou hulp! Jy maak so ‘n groot verskil in soveel mense se lewens. Dankie!

  12. Chantelle says:

    Jammer Helouisa, het jou per ongeluk Helena genoem. Verskoon asb.

  13. Megan says:

    Hi Helouise,

    Ek wil graag by jou weet kan ‘n mens aansoek doen vir pleegsorg as jy nie self kinders het nie, maatskapliker werker het gese dat jy moet kinders van jou eie hê?
    Sien uit om van u te hoor.

    • Goeie middag.

      Enkellopende sowel as getroude paartjies, wat nog nie hulle eie kinders het nie, mag wel aansoek doen om pleegouers te word.

      By watter instansie het julle aansoek gedoen en waar woon julle?

  14. elize says:

    Would love to foster a new born baby. Pls let me know also about adopting.

    • Good evening.
      Unfortunately I’m unable to advice you on adoption, as this is a foster care site.
      I would strongly advice against getting involved in foster care with the purpose of adopting a child. Foster care pertains to the temporary care of a child, until such time as the child is able to be reunited with his/her biological parents.
      Should you still want to become involved in foster care, please contact the closest CSC Offices to you. There is a link to the Nationwide list on the information page of this blog.
      Regards.

  15. Nayee says:

    Hi im looking for someone who can foster my 3months old bby ..im unemployed n idnt hv a stable place to stay if intrested jus email me then we can arrange with the social workers im in western cape.. thank you

    • Good afternoon.

      Please note that this and any ‘œrequests or offers to adopt or foster specific children’€ will be deleted.

      As mentioned in previous posts, this is not a platform to ‘€œtrade’€ children. Contact your closest Social Welfare Offices to initiate these functions.

  16. Catherine says:

    Good day, My sister fostered a little boy many years ago. He is now 17 but she past away 2 years ago. Her husband got remarried and now this child doesn’t fit in the new marriage.His been shipped of to some boarding school or institution for troubled kids as far as I can make out. We had no contact with the child since my sisters passing. My sister had 2 kids of her own which is of age. Do they have any legal rights to take this boy in as he doesn’t deserve to be shunned again and we know it would absolutely not be what my sister would have wanted. We really lost her and dont know what to do but in the same sense we don’t want him to loose the sense of family he still have especially with his older siblings

    • Good afternoon. Your best course of action will be to contact the boys overseeing case worker, and openly discuss the situation and your concerns with her. She will also be able to inform you as to what options/solutions will be in his best interest. Thank you for caring so much as to not just leave him in a situation that can harm him emotionally. May you have wisdom in your undertaking.

  17. zenande says:

    I need a social workers

  18. Angela Hope says:

    Good day,
    I am so worried about my neighbor’s children. The boy is 4 and a half And the girl is 3. We love these children with all our hearts. We’ve practically raised them from birth for the first 2 and a half hears of their lives. I look after them during the day, I feed them and bathe them before they go home. The parents are young, unmarried and constantly fighting an the children hears and sees everything. Their house is very unsanitary, dirty and unkept. Currently the grandmother is taking on the responsibility of caring for them when they are not with me. Sometimes they stay with us for weeks. The boy keeps telling me that he thinks he must come and live with us. He says that ours is his and his sister’s home, while the house where he lives with his parents and grand parents, he calls his “nanna’s house” . They are very intelligent but do not get the stimulation they deserve. They are english and we are afrikaans and they speak both languages as if it’s their home language. The girl is so attached to my husband and can’t wait when he gets home from work. They are showing signs of anger management problems and are not able to resolve conflict with words but use physical violence in stead. We were selected by the parents to be the godparents of these two children. I warned them that I take it very seriously and that I will repremand them should they harm the children. What can I do about this situation? If I call child wellfare they will certainly take the children away, but then they will not get to see us anymore. They will be heartbroken just like we’ll be. We tell each other at least 50 times a day that we love each other, we spend time with them, take care of them when they are sick, they even have their own room in our house and we ocationally buy them clothes, shoes and toys, some of it goes home and some of it stays here with us. The boy said to me that I make the best food of everyone and that he doesn’t like the junkfood and snacks he gets at “nanna’s”. Sometimes the children are woken up at 10:30am and dropped of at my house without been fed breakfast. If I report the parents for neglect, what are my chances for fostering these children untill the parents get sorted and maybe some classes in parenting and anger management? I have trouble sleeping over this and I worry about my angels all the time. The boy needs special medical attention and they don’t take him to his apointments at the state hospital. You may reply in english or afrikaans. Please, just give me some advice.

    • Good afternoon. Where do you stay? Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Thursday 29 May 2014 01:13To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9ia-rmq8f9ts@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  19. charlotte says:

    hi ek wil graag net weet of daar iemand is wat vir my inligting kan gee, my dogter is 15 en haar baba is 26 mei gebore en ons wil die baba in pleegsorg neem, my dogter is tans in n te huis vir ongehude moeders en gaan by die hospitaal skool skool. ons is meegedeel dat my dogter nie by ons mag aanbly as die pleegsorg goed gekeur word nie, en sy kan moontlik in n kinderhuis geplaas word, ek wil net weet hoe besluit met tussen jou kind en klein kind en watse besoek regte het sy by ons en ons by haar ek is so verward en voel of ek teen n muur vas loop telkemale

    baie dankie
    charlotte

    • My hart breek vir jou as ma en die amper wrede besluite wat jy in hierdie situasie moet maak. Ongelukkig is die realiteit dat jou dogter verkeerde keuses in haar lewe gemaak het,  wat onder ander daarop uitgeloop het daar ‘n klein weerlose kindjie gebore is. En alhoewel sy self nog ‘n tiener is kan sy al in groot mate na haarself omsien; wat ‘n pasgebore baba geensins kan doen nie. Julle as die grootouers van die baba het nou ‘n verantwoordelikheid om hierdie weerlose mensie te beskerm en te versorg totdat jou dogter volwasse genoeg is om die groot verantwoordelikheid self te kan onderneem.  Indien julle kleinkind by pleegouers buite julle familie geplaas word, gaan hy/sy tussen vreemdes groot word, wat daartoe gaan bydra dat hy van julle en sy herkoms vervreemd gaan word.Jou dogter gaan, hoe hartseer ook al, nou harde lewenslesse moet begin leer (verantwoordelikheid moet aanvaar), anders gaan sy nooit volwasse genoeg wees om regtig ‘n mamma vir jul kleinkind te kan wees nie.Fokus daarop dat julle verantwoordelikheid nou by hierdie weerlose kindjie lê.Ek werk gereeld met grootouers wat deur dieselfde hartseer gaan, en dit bly maar moeilik. Maar die distansie gaan jou dogter verantwoordelikheid en volwassenheid leer.Die maatskaplike werkers sal die beste besoekregte vir julle uitwerk. Met babas in pleegsorg is daar gewoonlik weeklikse besoeke.Baie baie sterkte! Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Tuesday 3 June 2014 12:38To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9ijo0vrusj7n@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  20. Bongz says:

    Hi, I’m a young man of 28. my main concern is that I have a child with a girlfriend whom we fight almost every hour. We have agreed that it’s not working between us and it’s better if we seperate. But we both don’t have parents or anyone 2 take care of our son. As she’s jobless I fear that if I let her take my child with her, that will affect him growing up. Now I want any1 who’s willing 2 keep my child untill he can be able 2 go and come back from school on his on as I am a working man. I love him and just want the best for him

    • Good day. Please contact your closest Welfare or CSC Offices and discuss your best course of action with them. They will also be able to bring you into contact with approved foster parents.

  21. Albert says:

    Hi
    Ek het n dogter haar naam is R. R was 2 maande oud toe ek haar gekry het. Ek het deur CMR gewerk en moes haar 2 keer n week vat vir family visits onder die maatskaplike werker se toesig. Toe R 9 maande oud was toe moes sy terug gaan na haar ouers die hof het besuit haar ouers is gerehabiliteer en verdien n 2 de kaans. Dit was baie erg maar ek het kontak gehou met haar en die ouers. Net na haar 1 ste verjaarsdag het haar pa my gebel en gese ek moet haar kom vat die ma is weer swanger en hulle kan nie na 2 kinders om sien. Ek het haar daardie selfde dag gaan haal. Haar ma het nog 2 kinders gehaat na haar en ek het kontak gehou met hulle. Haar suster het gereeld kom oor slaap as baba en hulle het n sterk band opgebou. Met tyd het die pa heeltemal verdwyn en die ma het net minder en minder kontak gemaak. Eventually het ons die ma weer op gespoor en uit gevind al 2 die ander kinders is nou ook in pleeg sorg. Sy het haar ma amper 2 jaar laas gesien ons kry haar net nie opgespoor. More is my kind se verjaarsdag en sy word 7 en al wat sy soek is n sussie, haar sussie om hier by ons te kom bly. Haar suster is in pleeg sorg en ons het glad nie kontak met haar nie. Ek will graag vir haar n susie kry maar eers moet ek R legally adopt. Sy is baie gelukig en doen goed op skool. Ons was vir family sessions by n sielkundige sy verstaan en weet hoekom sy by ons bly sy weet van haar ma en hoekom sy nie da kan Bly nie, en sy se ook sy wil nie da Bly nie. Ek wil haar graag aaneem maar is so bang iets loop skeef. Wat is die kaans dat na 7 jaar ek haar sal verloor. Ek wil ook net by las ek het an die begin van die jaar ophou werk sodat ek voltyds kan ondersteun in haar skool en sport.

  22. Elaine says:

    Hi Helouise,

    Ek is 33jarige geskeide vrou met 2 kinders (8 & amper 5), ek bly ook weer saam met ‘n nuwe kerel. Ek het ook ‘n half boetie (11) wat gebore is uit my ma se 2e huwelik. Ons sit met ‘n groot probleem. My half boetie se pa is 4 jaar terug oorlede en my ma is 15 Mei 2014 oorlede. Nou het my boetie nie meer ‘n ma of pa nie, hy bly tans by sy ouma van 70, maar al is dit nog nie eers ‘n maand nie sien ons klaar daar gaan probleme opduik (sy kyk nie na sy huiswerk nie, pas nie dissipline toe nie…..hy maak net wat hy wil en manipuleer haar…..die ouma het ook ‘n klein bietjie van ‘n drank probleem). Ek en my boetie deel ook nou maar die finansiele sy van die probleem (dis baie moeilik van ons sorg reeds vir ons eie kinders).

    Ek het ook nog ‘n boetie van 30, hy is getroud met ‘n seuntjie van amper 3. Kan ek of my boetie aansoek doen vir pleegsorg van my boetie?

    Ons wil nie aansoek doen vir pleegsorg en dan word hy heeltemal weggevat by almal van ons nie.

    Baie dankie

    • Goeie middag. In die beste belang van jou half-boetie sal ek jou aanraai om so gou as moontlik die naaste CMR aan julle te  kontak , en die saak met hulle te bespreek.  Hy het niemand anders om sy stem te wees nie. Ek kan julle geen waarborg gee nie, maar die kanse klink goed dat hy in jou of jou boetie se sorg geplaas sal word. Sterkte. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Wednesday 11 June 2014 16:53To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9iroc2xu4l1c@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  23. lebohang says:

    hi

    Thank you very much for this blog I’ve been going trough it and found many interesting stories, however I am not happy with the long procedure of Adoption in SA, the long term makes more parents give up, I’ve worked with many people trying to adopt but end giving up due to the process, I was once introduce to a lady who tried child trafficking due to the delay of the adoption showing sometimes how desperate people are in either fostering or adopting a baby, my case is I am so much willing to adopt a baby from 0-3months which is not possible no matter how I am speeding up the process on my side, the question is, is there any legal solution to speed up the process regarding the adoption process,

    I’ve approach many agencies with no luck instead some are advising me of R6-750,00 per hour and they consult for 2hrs, now in this situation how can I be assisted.

    hope to hear from you soon.

  24. Christo Greyling says:

    Dear Helouise, we wanted to make contact to see if there’s any possibilities that we can adopt a child. We left South Africa in 1997 and we’ve been living in New Zealand for the last 16-17years. Our two children finished University a couple of years ago and do not live at home any longer. We’re in our early 40s and it will be wonderful if we can give a new life to a child who really needs a new start. My wife’s a “retired” teacher running her own business from home and I’m working at the Unversity of Auckland.
    Please let me know who we can make contact with to explore this further.
    Kind regards.
    Christo & Melinda

    • Dear Christo and Melinda.

      This blog pertains to Foster Care in South Africa. I am unable to advice you in any capacity on adoption, nor do I have any contact with anyone working with adoptions.

      To qualify as foster parents you have to be resident in South Africa. Kind Regards.

  25. Kimberly says:

    Good evening. I have been a foster mom to my stepdaughters little girl . She is seven
    old . Is there a support group where other foster parents can discuss ,share experience and get advice . I am currently living in johannesburg. Kind regards. Kimberly

    • Good evening. I am part of the CSC Foster Parent Support Group in Pretoria. Unfortunately I do not have any information on other Foster Parent Support Groups in South Africa.‎ My advice will be to ask your Supervising Social Worker . She should be able to refer you. Kind regards. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Wednesday 18 June 2014 20:47To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9i_vfjthb0vs@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  26. annemarie says:

    Halo ek wil net by jou hoor ons het so 3 maande trug by my verloofde se oudste broer in nelspruit gebly die storie begin by sy broer dink ons kani sorg vir ons 4 maandige baba sorg nie die dag wou ek en my verloofde trug gaan na my tani hul toe ek en my verloofde het ouers maar my verloofde se pa is dood en ma wil hy niks van weet nie omdat sy sy pa ge panilbeat het sy pa het hom self gehang 2 jaar trug die dag toe ons wil loop by sy oudste broer toe wil hul nie he ons moet gani sy oudste broer het hom toe geslaan en aan die nek gegryp en amper verwirg sy oudste broer se vroutjie het toe ons baba uit my hande uit gegruip en kame toe gehardloop met haar en hyt my verloofde gese hul gaan die welsyn op ons sit en ons kind wegvat van ons omdat hul se ons kani sorg vir ons kindi maar my kind is spek vet en gesond ons slaan haar nie ons is alle tye by haar jah my man is nu besg met werk wat hy binne I week gekry het hul het welsyn op ons gest en jah uhm hul het gese as ons weer postmasburg toe gAan toe se dan sorg hy dan hy deur kom om ons kind te kom vat se my wat se evidince moet jy he om n kind weg te vat van sy ma of pa ek meen my verloofde se oudste broer vloek en skree op sy kinders en slaan hul oor net as sy seuntjie te lang bad en speel in bad of as hy lank op toilet sit met n groot pap lepel wat dik is en n lange my tani hul was opad om ons te kom haal toe se hy ons moet haar laatweet sy moet ons nie kom haal hyt gese as ons ons kind wil sien moet ons bly se mag hul dit doen

    • Ek sal jou aanraai om so gou as moontlik die naaste CMR of Welsynskantore aan julle te kontak, en die saak met ‘n Maatskaplike Werker te bespreek. Ek kan myself ongelukkig nie uitlaat oor ‘n situasie waarvan ek nie al die besonderhede het nie. Baie sterkte.

  27. anika says:

    Hey there I need help please. A friend of mine is looking after her granddaughter the girl is now 11years old. Her mother send her to her grandparent’s because she could not look after the girl. Now she wants her child back, but the girl does not want to go back to her mother. The girl say that her mother mentally abuse her keep on telling her she is not good enough. The 11year old girl is scared to go back to her mother. When she lived with her mother she was in different school not long in one school. She was hold back one year because she was not the whole year in school. What can my friend as grandparent do?

    • Good morning. Your friend should urgently contact the closest CSC or Welfare Offices to her and discuss the situation with a social worker. The social worker will be able to give her advice and guidance on how to handle the situation. To try and handle the situation privately will only make complicate the situation and make it even worse‎. Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Tuesday 24 June 2014 23:14To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9ict73xx-_yp@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

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  28. Bongani Sithole says:

    I need help, I’m being neglected by my father and step mom, I don’t have a biological mother, and that hurt me because I have never seen her even my father never told me about her. my parents don’t love me, and there is no food right now! During school holidays I don’t eat most of the times , I just want help from someone living in Sasolburg or a foster care in Sasolburg, my email bonganisithole98@nokiamail.com please contact me if you want to help me briskly . I’m 16 years old ,a boy..my name is Bongani, please help me to get a foster home or foster care,my father sometimes kicks me out of the house for nothing, now I don’t feel safe at all since he wants to beat me up till I bleed. I can’t go to the police because I’m under age, so please hear me out! I’m here starving to hell, its by luck that I have sent this message here using a friends phone, because my parents don’t support me financially, emotionally , and all that, they don’t care about me and I think they want me not to succeed in life! They don’t want me to study, and they don’t even check or ask about school work, they don’t go to my meetings, so that hurts me and disturbs me at school. Please help me foster parents to get new parents.

    • I’m sorry to hear about your home circumstances but am unable to help you. If you go to the Police and report your neglect and abuse to them they are by law obligated to help you, even though you are 16. Alternatively contact a Social Worker at welfare offices close to you, or speak to a teacher at school, or a priest/pastor. They will be able to assist you. The sooner you speak to someone in your community, the sooner you will be able to receive help. Be strong.  Sent from my BlackBerry 10 smartphone. From: Foster Care in South AfricaSent: Friday 27 June 2014 15:01To: helouiseS@gmail.comReply To: comment+rd8qzuo28ioz9i2uhrtjmtdw@comment.wordpress.comSubject: [Foster Care in South Africa] Comment: “Information Page”

  29. Celandy says:

    Hi

    My name is Andisiwe Mkhize, I’m 23 years old. I’m a student at Wits and I have a 6 year old child whom I love with all my heart. The problem is that I have nobody to look after my child when I’m at school. I don’t want to give him away but I just want a family that can take care of him until I finish school.
    What can I do? Please help.

  30. langa says:

    am a sinlgle mother of a two years old daughter,i am three months pregnant and unemployed.i am depressed and suiced seem to be the only option.i do have parent,the family i lived with kicked me out.i live with a friend who also want me out asap.please help.

  31. Nadeem says:

    Hi, I am a 29yr old married male, living in the northern suburbs of cape town. my wife and I are interested in being foster parents, we do not have any children of our own, we are a Muslim couple and I would like to know if this may be an issue? it was when we were wanting to adopt. we are practising Muslims and of course if we foster, the child will be in a Muslim household.

    can you please point me in the right direction here, where should we go, who should we speak to. we would love to have a little child in our home.

    Thanks

    • Good day. This is an foster care only site, but I found the below listed on doing a Google search:

      Durban Child Family and Community Care Centre – Mainly for adoption of Moslem and Hindu children.

      PO Box 128, Durban, 4000 Tel (031) 309-1501, fax (031) 309-3000.

      I am not sure how far you’re willing to travel to adopt a Muslim child, but this may be helpful to get another referral.

  32. Hannelie says:

    Ek stel belang om te pleegsorg maar het geen idee wie om te kontak vir Grahamstad area nie.

  33. Lebogang says:

    Hi I am 23 and I’m pregnant and I’m not sure what to do I am considering abortion but then I would like to get forster parents to help. Thank you

  34. Ronelle says:

    Hi I’m seeking advice on a child who has been placed in a family home of the parent who is on drugs and no where to be found. He is only 2months old, I have met this little guy an fell inlove with him and so have my husband an family. This little boy is in the care of a distant aunt because of his mothers non care, but this aunt only cares for her own well being, so she uses this child sends him from home to home in the area and the peoples homes he goes he stays there an they feed her or supply her with money and so she gets money from goverment for him. He has slept over at our home for a couple of times an we enjoy having him around its so sad to see what this foster mom is doing. I don’t see how children can be placed in care of people like this an she is on the go always does not care. Her home is opposite a drug den, she has hundreds of other people on her plot, and many other family children, if this child can’t be placed in my care I would rather see him with a family that will care for him. Please help me how do we stop this? How can I care for him?

  35. melanie koen says:

    Hi
    My boyfriend is 29 was given up for adooption spent his life in children homes how do we find out why he was either removed or given up by parents he needs to know so that he can put it behind him and live his life. Who can help
    Melanie

  36. Good afternoon. Unfortunately this is blog on foster care and I have no contact with adoption agencies. My best advice would be for him to contact the last Children’s home he lived in and try to get the information from them, or ask them for advice on how to obtain the information.
    I wish you both all of the best on your roads ahead.

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